Decluttering the Mental Load: Creating a More Balanced Home Life with Paige Connell (Ep 264)
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Struggling under the weight of doing it all? In this episode, Deanna is joined by Paige Connell—a working mom of four—to talk about decluttering the mental load. They dive into invisible labor, the pressure modern moms face, and how to create more balance at home through honest conversations and shared responsibility.

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• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get my children's book: Lenora and Her Super Duper Messy Room⁠⁠⁠⁠)

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In this episode of the Wannabe Clutter Free podcast, Deanna Yates is joined by Paige Connell—a working mom of four and a powerful voice for moms navigating the mental load of motherhood. Together, they unpack the invisible labor so many women carry: remembering appointments, managing the household, keeping the family running… and somehow staying sane through it all.

Paige brings honesty, humor, and a big dose of validation as she shares her own experiences and the collective wisdom of the community she’s built on Instagram and TikTok. This isn’t about doing more—it’s about letting go of the idea that you have to do it all.

If you’re feeling burned out from being the default parent, struggling to find balance at home, or wondering how to have more equitable conversations with your partner—this episode is for you.

We talk about real-life strategies to simplify your mental load, how to advocate for change inside and outside the home, and why asking for help is a radical (and necessary) act of self-care.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the mental load looks like in everyday life—and why it’s so draining

• How to talk with your partner about sharing the load without starting a fight

• Simple ways to create more connection, peace, and partnership at home

• Why building a support system is essential (not selfish)

• How even small shifts can declutter the overwhelm and help you breathe easier

Time Stamps:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:51 Starting the Conversation with Paige Connell 03:14 Balancing Motherhood and Career 04:26 Addressing Societal Expectations and Double Standards 08:42 Equity in Household Responsibilities 14:22 Common Misconceptions About Working Moms 20:04 Starting Conversations at Home 26:50 Addressing Defensiveness in Conversations 28:55 Understanding Societal Pressures on Partners 31:09 Navigating Parenting and Mental Load 35:50 Building Community and Support Systems 36:50 Advocating for Family-Friendly Work Policies 43:05 Practical Tips for Sharing Responsibilities 46:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Music: Fresh Lift by Shane Ivers - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.silvermansound.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)

We’d love to hear how you’re applying the strategies discussed in this episode. Share your stories and tips with us on social media (@wannabeclutterfree). Don’t forget to subscribe for more insightful episodes designed to make your busy life a bit easier.

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