We're sunsetting PodQuest on 2025-07-28. Thank you for your support!
Export Podcast Subscriptions
cover of episode Lust, Love or LIMERENCE? Uncut with Thais Gibson

Lust, Love or LIMERENCE? Uncut with Thais Gibson

2025/5/1
logo of podcast Life Uncut

Life Uncut

AI Deep Dive Transcript
People
T
Thais Gibson
Topics
Thais Gibson: 我是依恋理论专家,也是一名咨询师、作家和播客主持人。痴迷是一种强烈的、令人上瘾的迷恋,它与普通的迷恋不同,通常是单向的,并且持续时间不长。痴迷通常伴随着强烈的情绪波动,从欣喜若狂到极度低落。痴迷者往往会理想化对方,忽略对方的缺点,并对被拒绝感到极度恐惧。痴迷的触发因素主要有两个:一是对方满足了你未被满足的深层需求;二是对方拥有你非常渴望的品质。痴迷有三个阶段:迷恋期、情感成瘾期和消退期。不同的依恋类型会以不同的方式表现出痴迷,其中焦虑型依恋的人最容易且持续地出现痴迷。区分早期关系中的强烈欲望和痴迷的关键在于:是否存在情绪波动、自我忽视、行为受他人期望驱动以及强烈的侵入性想法和对拒绝的恐惧。要打破痴迷的模式,首先要意识到痴迷是生活中的一种模式,然后分析每次痴迷对象的共同点,找出未被满足的需求,并通过21天的计划来满足这些需求。如果对方没有投入感情,就应该断绝联系,进行21天的“排毒”,专注于自我疗愈。极端的痴迷可能会发展成跟踪狂行为。清醒的约会是指有意识地约会,了解自己的模式和需求,并以此为基础进行选择,而不是被潜意识的模式所驱动。 Laura: 在节目中,我们讨论了痴迷的概念,以及如何区分痴迷的爱和真正的爱。我们探讨了痴迷的迹象、关系模式以及如何识别这些模式。 Brittany: 我一开始并不了解痴迷这个词,但通过和Thais Gibson的对话,我了解到许多人都有过类似的经历。这集节目对那些处于不尽如人意的爱情循环中,或者对某人非常痴迷的人来说,会有很大的帮助。

Deep Dive

Shownotes Transcript

It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School). She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. 

We unpack:

The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships  The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase Navigating different power stages with a partner Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence Can limerence turn into stalking? Conscious dating and wired patterns

You can find more from Thais:

Website I)nstagram )YouTube)

 

You can watch us on Youtube)

Find us on Instagram)

Join us on tiktok)

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group)

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

See omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information.