A lopsided view of G-ds plan may entertain the mind but be of little benefit to others unless there is an associated action. Sometimes it is easier to support another who is doing what you are called to do. Spiritual maturity defined is just, being in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing. Second best may possibly be another name for missing the mark. If Life is your opportunity to learn to love, Do not let it pass you by. Rebbe T.