与其追逐“人生赢家”，不如培养“赢家个性”
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大家好,我是 Jenny,欢迎你又一次回来收听潘吉 Jenny 告诉你。Hey everyone, I'm Jason, and welcome to today's episode all about personality.对,性格,然后我们今天要讲的性格呢,其实我们会讲很多种的性格特点,对吧?Personality traits。

就是一种非常赢家的性格对,但我们这里说的这个 winning 它不是说我赢了我 beat all of you 然后就我最棒你们都很弱对,不是关于竞争是关于在全球上有一个很棒的个性

对你看很多不同行业最成功的人其实他们都有这种他能 win 是因为他可以 win people overit's not likei winyou all loseyou are losersit's

对,所以这里这个 winning personality 我觉得可以翻译成就是你是很能赢得人心的,因为在职场或者在人生里面,你要赢的话,这得人心很重要嘛。

好,那我们今天呢会跟大家分享十多种啊这样的不同的 winning personality traits 它不仅是非常好的对于我们性格啊心理上的一些学习对于学英文也是极佳的预料

好,那我们就赶快开始那今天我们第一个要说的这个性格特点一个特点就是自我认识有一种清醒的自我认识对,Thank you Jason 你非常贴心地给了大家名词又给了大家形容词所以如果一个人是非常 self-aware 的就是说他知道自己

他是个什么样的人对吧他知道自己有哪一些强的地方但他也知道自己有哪一些需要改进的地方对然后你是可以对自己非常坚定

对自己是要很诚实对然后第二个我觉得 no surprise 就是自信但是自信有

有的时候一个什么特别 confident 的人他是个有点自大的有点 arrogant 的因为他的自信好像是建立在 putting others down 就是要把别人踩下去要贬低别人 but that's not real confidence right

对,and that's why,you know,being humble,having humility is so key.

对,确实中国人对于 humble 是不陌生的,在我们文化里面非常的重要。然后这个 humble 其实是一种 quiet confidence,real confidence,without having a huge ego。

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对,你刚刚说的 to acknowledge 知道你自己的局限 right, that's really important 就让我想到我们前面说的那个 being self-aware 其实这个列表上面有很多的 personality traitsthey overlap,有很多 commonalityyeah, they overlap and some of them are not possiblewithout having the other trait, rightso they're all connected together 没错,都互相联系的啊

当然人生有顺境也有逆境,然后我们总要面对很多的改变,对吧?所以这个时候你的灵活性,你的适应性就非常的重要。

中国有句老话说,以不变应万变嘛。

对我觉得这个 being adaptable 就是你不会被 change 一下子吓倒或者就是说哎呀怎么办很容易 give up 很容易 anxious 啊是的那我们下一个性格特征也是 A 开头的但它跟 adaptability 这好像还挺不一样的就是讲到性格的另外一面

这个我觉得还有点难翻译中文所以 Jason 为什么不先解释一下对

特别是在一些 situation 可能很多人都有一个意见但那个意见是不对的是吧那你这个时候 instead of going along with it 你是敢于说出自己的想法对,you're not worried aboutoffending the other personso much that you don't communicate your feeling,right?You assert your feelings 对,if being assertive is the opposite of being passive 对

是吧就很被动的一些很多时间如果你一直很 passive 的话到最后你会觉得很憋屈啊然后觉得 I've been taken advantage of 因为你不敢 voice your own opinion 就像你讲的 Yeah maybe you're too distracted in your mind about how they're going to react and so you don't say anything right and that's not being assertive 这个中文我们可以说你是很果敢的 You know 又果断又勇敢那种

嗯 果敢 I like thatSo that's also very important, right?因为, you know, winning people over doesn't just mean 你一直迎合别人 give up 自己的想法 give up 自己的原则那肯定不对 Yeah, that's rightYou're clear on what you believe and you clearly communicate thatyou don't compromise your own values 对,讲得很好就不轻易妥协对自己很重要的一些事情或者自己的原则好

那其实看很多非常成功的人啊他们还是一直在保持学习是吧就像乔布斯他一句非常有名的话叫 stay hungrystay foolish 嗯

对,好奇心啊因为好奇心真的能够驱使推动我们去做很多的事情对,我们可以找到我们的 motivator 通过我们的兴趣我们的强烈的渴望学习和成长我们一直在寻找新的知识和方法进步,对吗?

对对没错我们差不多这个已经分享了一半这些 personality traits 接下来的这一个我觉得是近几年英语里面讲的非常多的和情绪有关的情绪智商 emotional intelligencebeing emotionally intelligent

好像以前我们就是很习惯说智商 IQ 然后情绪智商 EQ 或情绪指数但这几年 I feel like emotional intelligence has almost replaced the word EQ

对,EQ 就好像说智商,有些人一测,哇,是个神童,是个天才,然后像我这种普通人,我也没去测过,因为很怕自己受打击,但就像你说的 IQ,EQ,就让人觉得好像你天生是这样,就很难再改, Whereas emotional intelligence,

你可以在这些地方下功夫努力 It's something you can keep acquiring and improving onYeah, this isn't something that's static, right?You can improve on it through whether it's relationships with other people, self-reflectionYou can get better at managing emotions and how emotions impact relationships

对,其实这个就让我想到我们第一个讲的那个 self awareness 然后我觉得 emotional intelligence 就更加你是要 be aware of the whole situationnot just yourselfbut how others are feeling 就我们也常常说的一个 being empathetic 要有同理心要能从别人的角度来想

好 是的当然有目标有目标导向也非常重要好

那这个 oriented 就是你的方向在哪儿,对吧?比如学英语,我们会说 exam oriented,就是应试的。但是喜欢我们节目的很多朋友,大家是 interest, passion, or self-improvement oriented,这是你学英语的导向。

对,而且我觉得这种也是会很有行动力,对吧?

对所以这个时候你要有 discipline 就非常的重要啊 yesbeing disciplinedor having discipline 对我们前几期节目讲过这个自律 discipline 人生里面很多的事情要做好真的都不容易做好

做几次做几天可能 not that hard 但是 being disciplined means you're consistent 你能坚持下去没错 which segues really well into the next two personality traits

那这两个呢不仅长得有点像然后它们意思也是比较像的都是讲的你要能坚持对吧先来看看这个 perseverance 或者 your perseverance 意思就是在你遇到挫折失败的时候你还不放弃对

对,然后它的动词也挺常用的,就是 you need to persevere, because life is a marathon, not just a sprint,人生是一场马拉松,对吧,perseverance 很重要。

那那个 persistence or being persistent,这又是什么意思呢?persistence just means to keep trying something over and over, even if you might not get exactly the result you're looking for, but you keep trying, right? You keep going at it.

对其实它和 perseverance 非常像但我觉得 perseverance 可能更多的是说一种性格特点 whereas persistence 更多的是说好像你的 actionyou know what I meanlike one is about attitudeand the other is about actionyes that's a very good pointyeah perseverance is all about this feeling ofyou know persevering even when things are toughand persistence is about the actions you're taking not to give up

对对所以你又要有 mental 的对吧又要有精神上的力量然后又要有实际的行动好那我们今天最后要分享的两个 personality traits 是什么呢 The first one isresilience orbeing resilient 真的英语有好多词 They're so similar 这个跟前面 persistence 又有点像对有一个结构吧 like intsresilience perseverance

好,那讲到 resilience 这个词,也有个小窍门啊,就是你想象一根橡皮筋,like an elastic band, a rubber band。Yeah, that's right. It's all about your ability to recover from these setbacks like a rubber band, right?

对 就是可能压力很大一个 rubber band 你只拉拉拉拉它还能不断 right it doesn't breakso hardshipsobstacles failuresthey don't break youyeah in factif you're really resilientthey make you even stronger 哦 就我们中文说的越挫越勇英语不是有一句叫 what doesn't kill youmake you stronger 吗

啊,yes,I think this was Nietzsche,it's a philosopher from a long time ago who said this,but no matter what happens,if it doesn't kill you,it'll only make you stronger 所以 Jason 比我有涵养很多啊,他说是你才讲的哲学家我脑子里就想到那首歌是什么 Kelly Clarkson 是吧 Oh,really?She used this as well?你没听过吗?非常红的一首歌 Yeah,because it's an important life lesson,right?

对, which also brings us to our very last personality trait today, and it's all about being 乐观。Yes, being positive or being optimistic, optimism.

对其实乐观不是英语说那个 being Pollyanna 这个 Pollyanna 就是糊里糊涂那种乐观好像很天真像童话一样 but being optimistic 就是说你 recognizeyou will have hardshipsyou will have failure 但是 you persevereyou are resilient

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对,而且我觉得 it's not just about ourselves,你这个 optimism 还很重要,它会影响到别人吗?大家一个团队或者家庭,有时候 as a family,you go through so many trials and tribulations,也很不容易,所以这个时候当你 optimistic 的时候,你可以给周围的人带来很多正面积极的影响。

是的

Yes, and this will help you not to have a losing personality, right?Losing personality, 变成 loser.Yeah, you don't want that.Yeah, you don't want that. 我本来去跳 optimism,optimistic 想 end on a high note, 然后你跟我讲 losing personality。那要不要下一次节目说什么是 losing personality, top ten traits?So depressing though.

没有但那个也挺有用的因为我们可以对照一下看看自己有多少打勾那是对的让我们多一些自我认识那是对的那是一个很好的点我们可以更仔细地看看我们的缺点

好那我们今天的节目就到这儿那最后呢我很想问问大家就是你觉得这几年特别是 as you get olderand hopefully become more mature 你的性格特点上面取得了哪一些提升和进步 yeah tell us about the personality traitsthat you've seen some improvement inyou can changeyou can be adaptable rightour personalities are not set in stone 嗯

说得好 OK 那我们今天的节目就到这非常感谢大家的收听那你还希望我和 Jason 聊什么话题呢都欢迎大家在留言板块告诉我们 All rightTake careAnd we'll see you next time 好 再见