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Carrie Coon on What Being Worthy of Love Really Means

2025/2/26
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Carrie Coon: 我在电影《三个女儿》中饰演的凯蒂,她对姐妹们的看法过于刻板,阻碍了她们之间的亲密关系。这让我联想到我自己的家庭,我们对同一事件的解读常常大相径庭,这源于我们对彼此的固有印象。我努力避免对孩子有预设,但对兄弟姐妹却做不到这一点。这篇文章中关于自我价值和爱的观点与我多年来的误解相呼应。我曾认为自己无法爱人,是因为我缺乏自我价值感,无法整合自身的需求,我变得实用主义,努力让自己对他人有用以获得爱。但实际上,我是在逃避自身的需求,并因此产生怨恨。我祖母的信让我意识到,怜悯和爱是不同的,我应该允许别人自己做选择,而不是出于自私地控制他们。一段健康的爱情关系让我意识到,我的行为并不代表我的全部,我值得被爱。爱既是与生俱来的本能,也是后天学习的过程,两者兼而有之。 Harriet Brown: 在我的家庭中,我被贴上了‘无法爱人’的标签。这源于我母亲的言行,以及我自身的情感体验。我将爱与痛苦和绝望联系在一起,直到女儿出生后,我才真正理解了爱。爱不是痛苦和折磨,而是一种深刻的连接和责任。

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Introduction to the Modern Love podcast episode featuring actress Carrie Coon. The episode focuses on love, loss, and the complexities of human relationships.
  • Introduction to the Modern Love podcast.
  • Focus on love, loss, and human relationships.
  • The episode features actress Carrie Coon.

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In the movie “His Three Daughters,” Carrie Coon’s character, Katie, has rigid ideas about who her sisters are and what they’re capable of. When the women reunite to care for their dying father, those ideas become a barrier to true connection and care for each other.

In this episode, Coon reads the Modern Love essay “A Family Label, Ungarbled)” by Harriet Brown. Growing up, the author was never sure she could feel real love. It took breaking out of her mother’s ideas of her, and the birth of her daughter, to learn what love meant. Coon relates the essay to her own experience, describing her early dating life as tumultuous and recalling relationships she continued out of pity rather than love. Until one day, Coon got a letter from her grandmother that changed everything.

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