We're sunsetting PodQuest on 2025-07-28. Thank you for your support!
Export Podcast Subscriptions
cover of episode How I Decentered Men and Learned to Center Myself

How I Decentered Men and Learned to Center Myself

2025/3/19
logo of podcast Modern Love

Modern Love
AI Deep Dive AI Chapters Transcript
People
N
Natasha Rothwell
Topics
Natasha Rothwell: 我通过视觉化技术，例如制作视觉版，来实现我的目标。多年来，我一直努力成为一个以自我为中心的人，不再为了取悦他人而牺牲自己的需求。这需要时间和努力，也需要专业的心理治疗帮助我改变视角，不再从他人的认可中获得价值感。我学会了优先考虑自己的需求，并表达自己的愿望。即使在面对看似理想的伴侣时，我也会坚持自己的独立性和自我价值。 我曾经是一个十足的讨好型人格，为了避免冲突，甚至会违背自己的意愿。但通过多年的心理治疗，我逐渐学会了表达自己的需求，不再为了取悦他人而委屈自己。现在，我能够自信地表达自己的愿望，例如在会议上直接提出自己的要求。 我将自己作为人生的主角，不再从他人的认可中获得价值感。我关注自身需求，并通过各种方式，例如关注不同类型的女性形象，来丰富自己的视角，提升自信。 即使在面对看似理想的伴侣时，我也会坚持自己的独立性和自我价值。我会优先考虑自己的需求，并给自己足够的时间和空间去休息和放松。 Jasmine Browley: 我不再以男性为中心生活，我的生活重心始终是自己。虽然这并不意味着拒绝爱情，但我不会为了爱情而放弃自己的独立性和自我价值。我不会为了取悦男性而改变自己，也不会将自己的幸福寄托在一段感情上。 我曾经也渴望爱情和婚姻，但随着年龄的增长，我逐渐意识到，一段健康的感情不应该以牺牲自我为代价。我拥有自己的事业、朋友和爱好，这些都构成了我充实的生活。 即使遇到心仪的男性，我也会保持清醒的头脑，不会轻易迷失自我。我会优先考虑自己的需求，并给自己足够的时间和空间去思考和选择。 我不会为了爱情而放弃自己的梦想和追求，也不会将自己的幸福寄托在一段感情上。我的生活重心始终是自己，我的幸福掌握在自己手中。

Deep Dive

Chapters
Natasha Rothwell discusses her experience with vision boarding and how it has helped her center herself and achieve her goals. She shares specific examples of how she manifested desires, including working with Mike White on The White Lotus. The conversation transitions to her journey of self-discovery and prioritizing her own needs.
  • Vision boarding as a tool for manifesting dreams and goals
  • Overcoming people-pleasing tendencies through therapy
  • Prioritizing self-care and needs as a form of self-love

Shownotes Transcript

Natasha Rothwell plays characters who are constantly trying to improve and to better understand their desires. This season on “The White Lotus,” Rothwell, an Emmy-nominated actress, is back playing Belinda, a striving spa manager with dreams of becoming her own boss. Ambitions like these are relatable to Rothwell, who created and starred in her own show, “How to Die Alone.” But as she and her characters have learned, going after what you want often means changing your priorities and steering away from certain types of people.

Today on the show, Rothwell reads Jasmine Browley’s Modern Love essay, “I Decentered Men. Decentering Desire for Men Is Harder,)” about the challenges and joys of putting your own needs first. And Rothwell tells Anna Martin how vision boarding has helped her center herself.

Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times).

Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story).

Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts) or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.