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Neko Case: ‘If I Didn’t Yell the Truth, What Good Was I?

2025/1/22
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Neko Case: 我在回忆录中讲述了我痛苦的童年经历,我的父母都饱受创伤和成瘾的困扰,他们经常让我挨饿,只有宠物陪伴我。我感到自己是一个不被想要的孩子,被忽视和遗弃。我试图通过努力学习和表现优秀来获得他们的关注,但这并没有成功。我花了很长时间才意识到,母亲的行为与我无关,她只是不想要我。我理解父亲,但不理解母亲,因为母亲在我小时候就不想要我。我花了很长时间才真正理解和接受我的童年创伤,并开始努力重建自己的人生。原谅对我来说不是必须的,重要的是自我疗愈。我感谢那些理解和支持我的人,他们的存在让我感到不再孤独。 我一直在努力寻找真相,并勇敢地表达出来,即使这会让我付出代价。我一直渴望被重视和被爱,但我的童年经历让我感到孤独和不被理解。我感谢那些理解和支持我的人,他们的存在让我感到不再孤独。 Anna Martin: Neko Case 的回忆录讲述了她父母的创伤和成瘾,以及她童年时期遭受的忽视和贫困。她描述了她童年时期被忽视和遗弃的痛苦经历,以及她成年后如何努力重建自己的人生。她分享了她对原谅的独特看法,以及她如何通过音乐和人际关系来疗愈自己的创伤。她还表达了她对那些被成瘾者遗弃或虐待的人的支持,以及她对堕胎合法化的呼吁。

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Neko Case recounts her childhood experiences of neglect from her parents, who struggled with addiction and trauma. Despite the hardships, she found moments of beauty and connection in her relationship with her pets and nature. The experience shaped her view of seeking connection with strangers.
  • Case's parents struggled with addiction and were largely absent during her childhood.
  • She experienced significant neglect and poverty.
  • She found solace in her pets and nature.
  • She developed a strong desire to connect with strangers.

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In a new memoir out next week, the singer-songwriter Neko Case shares some painful childhood memories. In the studio with Anna Martin, Case is open and unapologetically angry as she describes being treated like “an unwanted child.” Both parents, she says, struggled with trauma and addiction. They often left her with no food and only her pets for company. Case also reads a Modern Love essay about the complex heartbreak that comes with being estranged from a parent with an addiction, and the joys of finding love and acceptance in the wake of that pain.

Neko Case’s memoir, “The Harder I Fight the More I Love You),” comes out Jan. 28.

Caitlin McCormick’s Modern Love essay, “My Mother, the Stranger,” can be found here). McCormick, who recently published a short fiction piece in The Sewanee Review), is working on a novel.

Listener callout alert: For our upcoming Valentine’s Day episode, the Modern Love team wants to hear about a moment when you knew you were falling for someone. Whether it happened all at once or as a gradual process, we want to learn about how it happened. Where were you? What did it feel like? What did you do next? (You can tell us about a current relationship, a past love or something happening to you right now.)

The deadline is Feb. 5, 2025. The submission instructions are here).

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