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To Share or Not to Share? How Location Sharing Is Changing Our Relationships

2025/6/25
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Anna Martin: 我观察到定位分享技术深刻地改变了我们表达爱意和设定关系界限的方式。我的父亲就是一个例子,他通过查看家人是否安全到家来表达他的爱,这是一种简单而温馨的表达方式。 听众: 我们分享定位的原因各不相同,有些人是为了安全,有些人是为了方便。例如,我与家人和朋友分享我的位置,这样他们可以在我需要帮助时找到我。但我也听到一些负面经历,比如有人因为定位分享而感到不安全或受到侵犯。一位听众分享说,她因为前男友通过定位分享发现她出轨而分手,而另一位听众则因为朋友过度关注她的位置而结束了友谊。 Arlen J. Staggs: 我与母亲分享位置的经历非常复杂。起初,这让她感到安心,但后来她开始过度解读我的位置信息,这让我感到不舒服。我多次打开和关闭位置分享,试图找到一个平衡点。在我的哥哥失踪后,我感到有义务与母亲分享我的位置,因为我知道这能让她感到安心。最终,在送母亲去机场时,我意识到我需要与她分享我的位置,这是一种爱的表达,让她知道我永远在她身边。我意识到,分享位置不仅仅是技术问题,更关乎家庭关系、界限和悲伤。

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When we asked Modern Love listeners how location sharing is affecting their relationships, the responses we got were all over the map. Some people love this technology. Some hate it. But either way, it has changed something fundamental about how we demonstrate our love and how we set boundaries around relationships. Today, we’re sharing a few of our favorite listener responses. Then, Host Anna Martin talks with Arlon Jay Staggs, a Modern Love essayist who has wrestled deeply with whether to share his location.

At first, location sharing wasn’t a big deal for Staggs and his mother. He took a lot of long drives, and it made sense for her to keep tabs on him. But when he realized his mother was watching his little blue dot too closely, and it was causing her stress when she needed peace of mind, Staggs decided the sharing had to stop. He just couldn’t figure out how to tell her. And when tragedy struck his family, the stakes of his decision to share or not share became a lot higher.

Today’s episode was inspired by the essay “Every Move I Make, She’ll Be Watching Me.)”

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