(Divorced) Home For the Holidays
Dr. Laura's Deep Dive Podcast
Deep Dive
What solution did Kate and her husband come up with to handle holiday stress from divorced families?
Kate and her husband decided to stop traveling long distances to visit their families. Instead, they invited their families to come to their house and get along with each other. This allowed them to start their own traditions and have smaller, more manageable gatherings.
Why does Dr. Laura advise against divorced parents putting pressure on their children during the holidays?
Dr. Laura believes divorced parents have no right to pressure their children into choosing between them. She suggests hosting a gathering at the child's home and inviting both parents, emphasizing that they should love their children and grandchildren more than they hate each other.
What advice did Dr. Laura give to Karen about her father's absence at Thanksgiving?
Dr. Laura advised Karen to adjust her expectations and accept that her father prioritizes his new family. She encouraged Karen to stop being angry and to focus on accepting the reality of the situation to avoid disappointment.
How did Dr. Laura suggest Jim handle his ex-wife's invitation to her family's Thanksgiving?
Dr. Laura advised Jim to attend his ex-wife's family Thanksgiving for the sake of his daughters. She emphasized that he should prioritize his children's well-being and maintain a positive presence in their lives, regardless of his personal feelings.
What strategy did Dr. Laura recommend to Kim for dealing with her stepchildren's messy habits?
Dr. Laura suggested Kim avoid direct confrontation with her stepchildren. Instead, she recommended practical solutions like using washable bedspreads, providing large hampers, and using disposable plates to minimize stress and maintain harmony in the household.
- Prioritize your own family's happiness over the expectations of extended family.
- Create your own family traditions to reduce stress.
- Set boundaries with family members who cause conflict.
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