Dr. Laura's journey to finding her purpose was non-linear and involved multiple career shifts. She initially wanted to be a weather girl, then a dancer, and later pursued a PhD in Physiology from Columbia University. Despite earning her PhD, she realized her heart wasn’t in research and transitioned to teaching. She eventually found her calling in radio and marriage and family therapy, which she has been doing for about 40 years.
Dr. Laura quit her academic career because she disliked research, which was a requirement for teaching at the university level. She enjoyed teaching but didn’t want to pursue research, leading her to leave academia and explore other opportunities, including radio and therapy.
Dr. Laura advises experimenting with different paths, being patient, and not expecting to know your purpose immediately. She suggests shadowing professionals, volunteering, and gaining exposure to various fields to discover what aligns with your interests and lifestyle.
Dr. Laura defines a meaningful life as one where your existence makes someone else’s life better. She emphasizes that purpose can come from various roles, such as being a parent, spouse, or community member, or through a job or service that positively impacts others.
Dr. Laura suggests starting with the lifestyle you want and then finding a career that fits into that lifestyle. She encourages people to be honest about their values, goals, and desired work-life balance, and to work backward from there to determine the right career path.
Dr. Laura discourages Brianna from becoming a therapist because it requires a significant time commitment and may not align with her desired lifestyle of raising children. Instead, she recommends Brianna volunteer in pet care, which would be more fulfilling and flexible for her goals.
Dr. Laura recommends experimenting with different roles and being open to new opportunities. She emphasizes that finding one’s purpose often happens by accident and encourages patience and exploration, especially in one’s 20s.
Dr. Laura advises Katie to reduce her workload rather than quit entirely. She suggests cutting down hours or days to maintain a sense of purpose while prioritizing her health and quality of life.
Dr. Laura advises that when you have a family to support, your primary responsibility is to ensure their well-being. She discourages pursuing personal dreams that could jeopardize financial stability, emphasizing the importance of sacrifice and practicality.
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Dr. Laura's Deep Dive Podcast. I'm going to talk today about a topic I just love, and that's how to figure out what to do with your life. When I was five, I wanted to be a weather girl. And so I used to take chalk and write all over my walls in my room, smiley faces for when it was sunny and cloudy stuff and rain stuff. Because when I was very young, that's what the weather person did.
they drew all these cool pictures. I thought that was amazing. Then I was about eight and I decided I wanted to be a dancer. I saw some movie or something and it, you know, like one of those grand movies where there are a hundred people dancing at once, somebody in front, and I thought that looks cool. Then I got into high school and decided I wanted to be a scientist. I kind of followed that through college
and graduate school. And then at some point, I think it was closing in on getting my PhD from Columbia University, from the Department of Physiology, which it's hard to get more elite than that, frankly, my friends. Minimum of six years, I did it in six. They didn't let you out in less than six. They took it very seriously. And I remember the day the chairman of the department, after six people from different disciplines came and
queried me about my research and then decided I had earned a PhD. I was in the office and he came in and shook my hand and said, congratulations, Dr. Schlesinger. Oh my God, I just about flipped out of my head. And by that point, I was already teaching biology, developmental biology, stuff like that. However, after all of that work, it's not what I wanted to do. My heart wasn't in it. I never applied for a postgraduate position.
And generally speaking, by the time you finish your PhD, you already have a job someplace else as postdoctoral student, which means you work under some la-di-da professor. They publish, their name goes first, even if you did 99% of the work. That's just how the game is played. I never even applied. And my thesis professor said, what's going on here? Why haven't you applied? Because I didn't want to do that anymore. I hated it. I got to the point where I really just hated it.
I did it well, but because you do something well doesn't mean you have to like it or be committed to it. I liked the teaching. The teaching was fun. Explaining things that were complex and having people understand them because I explained them in ways that were not complex, even though they were complex, was a blast for me. I liked that. But if you teach on the university level, you have to be doing research. So at some point, if you're not doing research, they unload you. So a year before, I got unloaded because I didn't want to do research.
I just like teaching and you can do that maybe in a two-year college, but in a university, it's paid for by grants and stuff like that. So the clock was running down and there was no way to get tenure if you weren't doing research. That was just not going to happen. So a year before the end, I quit. I liked the teaching, but I quit because I started working in radio. So while I was teaching, I was also going to school.
to get a license as a marriage and family therapist. I really liked that. I liked that a lot. To me, it was like Columbo. Remember that show? Private detective. Maybe he wasn't a private detective. I don't remember. Maybe he was an actual detective. But anyway, figuring out stuff and being helpful. I just liked it. And I seemed, by virtue of the feedback I was getting from the professors, seemed to have some talent in that department.
So I hardly weighed anything because I'm in the counseling program. I am counseling. I'm teaching full time. You know, my poor little body. And I had started a once a week radio show, KWIZ AM and FM in Santa Ana, California. That was a long drive from LA. So I was a hardworking kidlet. And the point of telling you this is that it's a journey to find out what you want. You don't just sit there and go, oh, I know what I want because I'm not a weather girl.
And they don't draw smiley faces for a sunny day anymore anyway. It's all done by computers and it's 50% of the time wrong. So glad I didn't do that. I didn't have the feet. My body could not have taken the brutality that a really good dancer has to put a body through. But I love dancing. So anytime I can go rock and roll dancing, I'm out there. Seven hours, I just, I can dance all night. Love dancing. Don't get a chance to do it very much.
So you have all these ideas and then you're going to be a scientist and I was going to discover a cure for diabetes and no, I did not. I did not. And I don't know if what I contributed would ever help that. I have no clue. Would be nice, but doubt it. So I sort of accidentally fell into what I'm doing now. So I called a radio show just to answer the question of the day. And the host found me amusing and witty. And the assistant said,
When I was finished, the host would like to talk to you off the air. And I went, you know, I'm from New York. I've seen this in movies. No, thank you. I don't know. Really wants to talk to you. Seriously. Okay. So met for lunch. And mind you, that had been the first time I had ever been on radio. I mean, I listened to radio to find out if it was good weather to go to the beach, but I didn't listen to radio for anything else.
I had no knowledge, didn't care, disinterested. It was just fun. This was a fun sounding show and I called and answered the topic of the day and was on there for 20 minutes for goodness sake. Well, this person said to me, one day you're going to be a big star. And I thought, oh please, is the next step you want to come to my house and look at my etchings? I was appropriately cynical about intent.
Well, this person mentored me and then later just became a mean son of a bitch for reasons I guess. He was getting old and was looking at his mortality and I was doing well and he had mentored me and I guess he couldn't handle that and he just became vicious and did all kinds of horrible public things to hurt my reputation and me personally and, you know, I survived it all. But it was pretty ugly and sad at the time. Nonetheless,
I just morphed myself into doing what I'm doing. I had a private practice. I ran a clinic. So there isn't necessarily a straight line. I mean, my position in life, the point of my life, came to me quite accidentally. I called a radio show. Of course, then I did the work to prepare myself. I went to school, got a degree, got a license. You have to back it up, whatever it is. And I've never turned back since. And I've been doing this for a span of about 40 years.
getting bounced around by all kinds of things. But that's life. All I can say is I'm still here, still loving what I do. And it was an accident. So sometimes you don't know what's around the corner. Maybe a good thing, maybe a bad thing, but we really don't know what's around the corner. There's a movie with Robert De Niro out, which is okay. I didn't like the feminist mentality in it, but it was okay. It's called The Intern. His wife had died and he wanted to do something. He had retired, so he wanted to do something. And then he was 70.
And he goes to intern and of course this 20-something guy is interviewing him and says, well, you're a little older than the interns we normally have, but we have a program here that includes that. But I have to ask you the same questions. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? And De Niro shrugs with that De Niro shrug face and says, 80. And I, you know, I'm sorry, I thought that was funny.
I don't know if anybody under 60 thought that was funny, but I thought it was funny. But you don't know where you're going to be. But you might want to ask yourself, where would I like to be in five years? And then if you would like to be there, ask yourself, do I really have the stuff? Do I have the right stuff? And if you have the right stuff, but you don't have the knowledge, well, then it's time to get the knowledge. And there are lots of ways you can get the knowledge. You can go to a school. You can do what they call shadow research.
And that is you find somebody who's doing what it is you do and you say, for no money, can I kind of intern under you and see if this is what I want to do? And, you know, I promise to be helpful. And there are people who like that. So they'll let you shadow. You can work at the hours or you can do, you know, that's basically volunteer work, except in an area you think you want to do. So that way you get exposure to it because, gosh darn, you may not want to do it. And it'd be nice to find out the easier way before you commit too much to it.
Now, generally what keeps people from finding their place is they're just too damn scared to do anything and to take the risks and maybe even too lazy to put in the effort. And then they talk about they're sabotaging themselves, la la la la la. They're just, they don't have the right stuff. Not everybody has the right stuff. I'm sorry, folks. You're all listening to me. Some of your feelings are being hurt. I have no intention to do that, but yeah, some of you just don't have the right stuff. You don't have the gumption. I don't have the gumption to climb Everest.
to me that's one of the dumber things to do with your body okay a lot of people for whom that is everything they spend years getting ready to climb everest and think that is a major wonderful i think it contributes nothing to nobody and who cares and the chances of you dying up there are pretty good i just don't see it but some people that's their goal whatever but if your goal is more directed toward i want to make a difference somehow to somebody
Well, even if you're an entertainer, you make a difference because you lift people's spirits. If you're funny, what have you, dramatic actor, you bring profundity into somebody's mind as they watch your performance. So it doesn't have to be a cure for cancer. There are lots of ways to add your little bit to make the world better. And some of you don't give a damn about making the world better. You just want to get rich. Well, I don't know how to tell you to do that. You'll have to go elsewhere for that kind of information. I'm mostly on the
How can you make your life meaningful? And the only way I know to make your life meaningful is that your existence makes somebody else's life better. That's purpose. So you have to be honest with yourself as to what your values, goals, and ideals are, what your morals and ethics are about, and make decisions. You sort of work backwards. Okay, how many hours do I want to work a day? Be honest. Where do I want to live? Be honest.
Do I want to make sacrifices to get married and have kids? Be honest. Work backwards. Decide the kind of lifestyle you want. I did that when I thought about how to pick a husband. I wanted somebody home for dinner. I wanted somebody who did not have a beeper. So I made a list in my mind of what were the unacceptable things, and then that just eliminated a lot of people right there because I just did not want to have my life perpetually interrupted. That's not how I wanted to live my life.
So for family, for your work, work backwards. Decide the life you want to live. I like dinner at six. I can push it to seven. By that time, I'm yawning. I have to take a break now. They're making me do it. Nonetheless, it gives you time to think about if you truly have followed your dream, your passion, your mission. I'll be right back. Dr. Laura's Deep Dive Podcast.
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Brianna, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you so much. I've been listening to you for the last few weeks and you've helped me so much. Oh, excellent. I really appreciate that. I'm at this point in my life. I'm about to turn 26 in a few days and I'm trying to decide what I want to do for my career and what I want my lifestyle to look like.
And do the lifestyle, ma'am, do the lifestyle question first. And I'll tell you why that's important for you to do first. I decided early on my lifestyle is six o'clock. I have dinner with my family when I have one. Yeah, that's it. So everything else now needs to fit into that. So you have to decide a lifestyle. I want to raise my own baby. Got to figure out how to work around that. So the lifestyle is the first thing you do.
Then you go back and say, what can I do that I would enjoy that works around my lifestyle? Because ultimately what makes people happy in life is not their career. It's their lifestyle, which includes the career. But that's not the thing that makes people happy. It's the life we lead. Okay. Okay. So tell me what your lifestyle is in terms of what you would like for the next 40, 50 years.
Yeah, yeah. I definitely do want to raise my own kids in the next few years. And I want to be able to be home and have that time with them and raise them. And I do want financial security as well. That usually comes from marriage. Women in marriages have financial security far and above when they're not.
Because obviously there are two people, and when a man's married, he tends to work harder in life. Isn't that interesting? Because he knows that he's responsible for other people. So the single biggest indicator of food on the table and a roof over your own head is marriage. Okay. Okay. Okay.
I do also want to make sure that I'm healthy and that it's a healthy lifestyle. Good. Some of that is a crapshoot. You know, things happen. But yeah, so you want to have exercise and eat properly. I get that. Yeah. Okay. So what are you married now? No, but we plan on it soon. Okay. So you have to think about what you want to do up until you make babies because then you're going to be home.
Yeah. See, that's why it's really important to do the lifestyle first. Are you marrying a man who is old enough, mature enough, experienced enough, settled enough that he can support a family? Yes or no? Yes. Yes. Okay. Good for you. So what do you need me for? You sound pretty squared away. I guess both of them.
I think are both jobs that I could enjoy and fit into that lifestyle. I'm sorry, both of what jobs? You didn't mention the jobs yet. Oh, sorry.
So I worked at the bank for four years, and growing up, I always wanted to work to help animals until I had to go to therapy myself in grade nine. And after that has changed my life. Why did you go to therapy at grade nine? You just popped that out of nowhere? What was that about? Right.
That was because of a really unhealthy relationship I had with a boy in grade nine that impacted my family and myself that we all didn't know how to deal with. What? Was he violent? What? No. We had sex early on when I wasn't ready. So you were raped? Yeah.
No. No, I just felt pressure, I guess. And there was a lot of emotional controlling, manipulation in the relationship. Yeah. Were all your friends having sex? No. No, they weren't. Well, what need did you have that giving in to him satisfied? I was worried that if...
I think if I said no, I was worried that he would leave. And I was new at that school. I didn't know many people. I don't have any siblings either. So I guess I felt like I needed him. Were you close to your parents? No, I don't. Yeah, the no was the reason you were with him. That was the substitute for everybody, friends, family and everything. Okay. So how does that impact you today?
So the therapist at the time helped me so much and turned my life around. Yeah, did you turn your parents around too and turn them into parents who were involved? Yes, my mom. My dad just didn't want someone else telling him how to live his life pretty well what he had said. And your mother decided that she ought to actually be a mother now? Yes. Hey, that's great. One out of two. That's good. Yeah.
Okay, so why are we talking about a career when you want to get married and be home with your kids?
Because I'm trying to, I guess, figure out which one, whether the pet care or going into being a therapist would fit better. No, no, I would not recommend you go be a therapist. Absolutely not. First of all, that takes an excruciating amount of time. And I think a lot of people have gone through disasters, go into therapy as a way to sort of rise above it. And I don't think that's what you ought to be doing. I think the pet care, the...
the ability to relate to the animals and how they fill you up emotionally, I think that's going to be wonderful. Because look at your pattern. You turn to sex you didn't want to fill yourself up emotionally. You're getting married. You're having a kid. This is all wonderful. You volunteer some hours a week in pet care, and I think that would be great for you. Are you saying that I should volunteer or that I volunteer right now? Right now. Yeah, volunteer right now.
Start volunteering right now. It's really cool. I just quit my job at the bank. I've been there for four years to do the pet care full time. How are you going to support yourself until you get married? With this, with growing this business. No, no, no. I'm not talking about a business. No, no, no. When you have a new baby, there is no time for a business. Most of the time, there's no time for a shower. Right. So...
I, you have no clue. I've been there, done that. Your life is not yours. That little bundle of noise and poop at one end and food going in at the other, rules, rules. So no, don't start a business. Don't become your mother and father. Please start volunteering.
ASPCA, you go on the weekends and display the doggies, the kitty cats that are up for adoption. You can go to veterinarian places and volunteer time and become a tech there. I mean, there are lots of cool things you could do, some of which you'll be paid for, some of which you might not. That's where I think you ought to go. That would fit into the lifestyle you say you want. Absolutely recommend you do not go into being a therapist. Do you think I should?
get, like, go back to the bank and work there because I could then easily... Wherever you can get dough on a regular basis until you get married. Yeah. Okay. Absolutely. It's just a means to put a roof over your head. That's all. Don't worry about it. You don't have to love it. Okay. And that's what I struggled with because I felt like I needed a job that was, you know, fulfilling and... No, you're going to have to... See, that's why I said tell me the lifestyle you want because that's where the fulfillment is going to come.
Right. And volunteering to help with the animals. Yeah. Past weekend, my son sends me two videos of two small little black Doberman brothers who are just so sweet. I've been through it with big dogs, but you know, they're suckers for puppies. So then he sent everybody adopt these dogs. It's very sweet. So we need people like you to help these animals do it. Okay. You have a good heart.
Okay. Give it to the animals. Thank you so much. And your husband and the kids. All eight of them. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I know. Yeah. Well, maybe not eight. I wish more people gave more thought to the vision they had for their lives. It could help prevent so many problems if everyone actually planned a little more. On the other hand, as I explained to Bryden when he called me, there's a lot of time to experiment when you're only in your early 20s.
Friday, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. How are you? Good. Thank you. What's up? All right. Well, you know, the reason I called in is I just want a little bit of guidance. So and, you know, I'm 21. And how does how does one find their purpose? You know, not really sure where to go. Experimentation. Sir, I'm answering your question.
Experimentation, and that takes time. And you're only 21, so you're only at the beginning of your journey. Right. Yeah, it's interesting. What did you get out of what I said? Because I know damn well you just flicked me off like I'm dandruff. So tell me what you just got from what I said. Well, you said to experiment. I said the answer is experimentation, and that takes time, and you're only 21. Yes, ma'am.
So you shouldn't have any expectations of knowing exactly who you are, where you should be and what you should be doing and how you make yourself meaningful in the world. You're just starting to be an adult. It's going to take some time and you have to be patient. Understood. So what kinds of things do you think you'd like to experiment with? Going into the military, getting a certain license or degree or finding out how to be a contractor? What?
I was in the military for a little while. And right now, I actually just made a job change from car sales to something in the public service sector. Good. We'll stay with that and see how that goes. Nothing is permanent except you being dead. So while you're not dead and you don't have a wife and children, you shouldn't at this point.
You experiment with life and figure out with experience and experimentation where your place is. And you might find it by accident. I found mine by accident. I am not sitting here doing what I planned to do when I was your age at all. Not even close. So best laid plans of still almost children. It takes time. Understood. I am here as a pure accident. So you may be doing thing A,
run across seeing L and go, oh my God, that's it. That's what happened to me. I didn't sit there and say, okay, what's my purpose? Yeah. It's yeah. You know, I appreciate the advice, Dr. Laura, you know, and I completely comprehended what you said. However, I feel time is fleeting, you know? No, it isn't fleeting unless you know you're going to die in two months.
Yep, that's not going to happen. No. No. And that's a bad attitude. You need this time in your 20s to experiment with life, to find your place. That's what the 20s are for. I know your generation hasn't been taught this, but I'm here to tell you that's what your 20s are for, to find your place in the world. So use these last nine years well. That was powerful, Dr. Laura. Well, thank you.
I certainly appreciate it. You're very welcome, sir. My number, 1-800-375-2872. You don't pull who you are out of the air. Nobody does that. We don't pull who we are out of the air. Nobody does that. Be patient with yourself as you grow and explore what you're good at, what excites you, what seems to fit into the lifestyle you've dreamed for yourself.
Of course, you know, priorities can change as you grow and mature. When Katie called me, she was not ready to give up her purposeful job in elder care, but the hours and stress was taking a toll on her already fragile health. So take a listen for the solution we came up with together. Katie, welcome to the program. Oh, thank you for taking time to speak with me, Dr. Laura. Of course, Katie. What's up?
Well, I'm wondering and I've been wondering when it would be the right time to quit work. I've been fighting terminal breast cancer for about seven years. I've gone through many surgeries, many treatments and I've worked full-time throughout that and the job is pretty demanding.
So I've gotten to this point and I'm fortunate to be Ned right now, which is a blessing. But the last year, work and treatment has kind of become incredibly overwhelming. And it's affecting me on the job.
It's affecting me at home. I come home exhausted and just worthless, you know, and I come home to a wonderful husband every day who has to deal with that. And, you know, I'm scared that quitting is giving up because the job allows me to be normal as much as I can. What is your job? I work with elder care, so it's very demanding. And where is it written that it must be full-time?
It is. It is not. Oh, it is full-time. It is. It doesn't have to be. I guess not. I would have to rethink it. Yes. But as it stands now, it is. You can't continue as it stands now. If you're struggling with treatment, trying to stay alive...
then leading the life you're leading is counterproductive to the quality of that life. I'm starting to notice that. I agree. And pushing yourself that hard is pushing yourself into a grave. Oh, obviously. I fought too hard to do that. I'm really starting to see that this isn't working. I don't believe the answer is you have to quit. I believe the answer is you have to cut down.
Okay. Listen, if you were healthy in 85, you'd have to cut down. No. Yeah. Yes, I would. I would, and I know that you still... Yeah, you would. So it's a fact of life that at some point, for whatever reasons are, we have to temper the pattern. Can't be 30 years old with or without health. So I urge you not to quit. I urge you to temper it.
Well, thank you. And if that means a few days a week or a few hours a day, you're still benefiting somebody and you still have purpose in your life, but you're not killing yourself. Yes, and I've struggled with that because it does give me purpose. Right. That's why I don't want you to give it away. What's the point of staying alive if you lose your purpose? That's exactly right. Thank you. That's exactly how I feel and why I've kept going.
You just have to be practical now. Yes. That is something I haven't been very good at, but I'm going to have to learn very quickly. Whatever time we have, you, me, everybody, you want to feel purposeful and you want to have enjoyment. And because you're pushing yourself in some level of denial, you're not experiencing either one, really.
Well, I definitely agree on the enjoyment piece. I do find moments of enjoyment, but no, I find that my energy does not go towards my loved ones, to be honest. Ultimately, there will be your regret. Yes. Yes, that is a fear. You are correct. And that's not what I want. And it's not the legacy you wish to leave.
No, I really don't want to be that person that they say was a good worker, but an incredibly lousy wife or sister or mother or aunt. So you are, thank you. So figure out if it's two hours a day, two days a week, so you can live your life. I will do that. Thank you for speaking with me. You're very welcome. Lots of hugs, kiddo.
Thanks. Hug right back. Thank you. I like that. Thank you.
Not every job is fulfilling. Some are downright annoying, but they pay the bills. That's especially relevant when you have a family to support. Sometimes you just have to be practical in your work and get your fulfillment from other areas of life, like taking care of your family, finding interesting hobbies, investing time in meaningful volunteer work.
That's what I discussed with Ron, who was interested in becoming an airline pilot when he called. Ron, welcome to the program. Hello, Dr. Laura. How are you? Good, Ron. What can I do for you? Well, my question is, you know, I am right now unsatisfied with my job, which I do right now. And I was always, you know, thinking about flying because that's what I like.
And since I have a family and, you know, if I pursue it, there will be financial problems. Then you can't pursue it unless you come up with some mechanism whereby you spend a few years squirreling money away like crazy so all the bills can be paid. Plus, you have to pay for the lessons and learning how to fly is an extremely expensive hobby. Yeah.
Yeah, no, I just, yeah, like I want to do that commercial thing and it's like $60,000 for, for the... Yeah, well, I'm sorry. You got a wife and kids, so you probably can't. It's all right. I wanted to be a surgeon and I couldn't do that either. You have a husband and kids and you do what you do.
So not to think about it? You can think about it all you want, but I think it's dangerous to keep thinking about it because then it makes you resentful and not a loving husband and father anymore because you feel like they're in the way of your dream, which you should have done 20 years ago. Sorry. You know, you ever use a map to get from here to there and you go to the left or you go to the right? Well, you can't always go back. Right. All right, then. Thank you.
Your job is to feel really good about yourself that you are sacrificing to take care of your family. That's the definition of a man. The definition of a man is not let the family suffer so I can do my dream. That's not the definition of a man. That's the definition of an adolescent. So you're being a man. So I would suggest you stop thinking about it all the time.
Okay. And maybe start building Lego planes. Yeah, I'm going to become a Legaholic pretty soon. We're pretty clear on that. And we're going to have Legaholics Anonymous. I'll be the founding member of everything. I have to take a break. And while I'm there, it gives you time to explore your life and see who in it you could help elevate by your special talents.
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Sweetheart, what about this one? Um, nah, fam. That's a little sus. Shopping with teenagers can be hard, between figuring out what they like and what they mean. But with Walmart, at least shopping for their next pair of glasses is easy. With the Walmart app, you can virtually try on frames at home, upload prescriptions, and get new glasses delivered right to your door. It's an easier way to get stylish glasses...
They'll actually like. Now these new glasses, total vibes. Buying new glasses has a new look. Welcome to your Walmart. Valid prescription required.