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Vol.60 学会嫉妒、比较、自怜,掌握苦大仇深的法门

2024/11/26
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卡卡:本期节目探讨了为什么人会不快乐以及如何变得快乐。从自身经历出发,分享了长大后不如小时候开心的感受,独自旅行的快乐,以及害怕被批评、被欺骗的经历。在人际交往中,卡卡坦诚自己容易先入为主,根据第一印象和刻板印象判断他人,并分享了多次被看似善良的人欺骗的经历。在工作中,卡卡表示自己容易被当下情绪左右,难以着眼全局,经常因为一些小细节而错过机会,并且在与大咖合作时表现冷漠,难以把握机会。卡卡不羡慕他人成功,只希望不被讨厌。在与他人的相处中,卡卡认为脸皮厚的人更容易获得机会,并分享了自己在自尊心和脸皮厚薄之间的矛盾与挣扎。在讨论为他人开心与嫉妒之间,卡卡认为自己会为凭实力获得成功的人开心,但对于那些完全靠运气获得成功的人则会感到嫉妒。卡卡也分享了自己在感情中的经历,坦言自己曾经很计较付出,希望对方特别在乎自己,但这种掌控欲反而让感情变得扭曲。最后,卡卡分享了自己对目标和幸福的看法,认为不必强求目标达成,享受过程即可,并表示跑步让自己更加爱惜自己的身体,更加爱自己。 姜小黑:姜小黑在节目中与卡卡一起探讨了快乐与否的原因。姜小黑也分享了自己长大后不如小时候开心的感受,并与卡卡一起讨论了文章中提到的影响快乐的八个方面,包括信任他人、着眼全局、为他人开心、计较付出等。姜小黑也分享了自己在工作中拖延问题的困扰,以及在与甲方相处中的一些无奈。在讨论嫉妒方面,姜小黑表示自己会嫉妒那些完全靠运气获得成功的人,但对于那些一步一步努力获得成功的人则不会嫉妒。姜小黑也分享了自己在感情中的一些经历,以及如何慢慢地学会接受不如意,降低对他人看重的期待,从而减少受伤。最后,姜小黑也分享了自己对目标和幸福的看法,认为设定目标是为了避免无所事事,但不必强求目标达成,享受过程即可。

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Why does the speaker feel less happy as they grow older?

The speaker feels less happy as they grow older because they believe the happiest times were during childhood. They mention that growing up has not brought them the same level of joy, and they often feel dissatisfied with their current state of life.

What is the speaker's perspective on traveling alone versus with others?

The speaker prefers traveling alone because it allows them to avoid disagreements and plan their own itinerary without pressure. They find that traveling with others, whether with a partner or friends, often leads to conflicts and compromises that diminish their enjoyment.

How does the speaker handle criticism from others?

The speaker is increasingly resistant to criticism as they age, finding it difficult to change ingrained habits. They believe that changing certain behaviors would cause more discomfort than maintaining them, and they often choose to avoid situations where they might be criticized.

What is the speaker's approach to trusting strangers?

The speaker is cautious about trusting strangers, often relying on first impressions and the person's demeanor. They are more likely to trust someone who appears friendly and open, while they remain skeptical of those who seem cold or overly calculating.

How does the speaker describe their experience with being scammed by strangers?

The speaker recounts several instances where they were scammed by strangers who appeared trustworthy, such as individuals asking for money or food. These experiences have made them more wary and skeptical of people's intentions, especially in public settings.

What is the speaker's attitude toward jealousy and comparison with others?

The speaker admits to feeling jealousy, particularly when others achieve success through luck rather than effort. However, they also express a growing ability to feel happy for others, especially when they see the hard work behind their achievements.

How does the speaker view their own self-worth and confidence?

The speaker struggles with self-worth and confidence, often feeling inadequate and comparing themselves negatively to others. They are working on accepting their flaws and finding small ways to build self-esteem, such as through exercise or personal achievements.

What is the speaker's perspective on setting and achieving personal goals?

The speaker sets personal goals to avoid feeling idle, but they often struggle to achieve them. They have learned to focus on the process rather than the outcome, finding satisfaction in small progress rather than fixating on unmet expectations.

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分析一下为什么我总是不开心 黑刀鱼,是一档面向全球华人情感问题的播客!本期主播:@卡卡脱口秀 @摔仔姜小黑合作讨论、听众群请联系:jxh19941114开头结尾Bgm:Wish you were here—Pink Floyd