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Episode 366: Sexual Fantasies Across Cultures

2025/1/28
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Mariella Dehota
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Justin Lehmiller: 在研究中,我发现人们的性幻想主要有七个主题,包括多人性行为、性虐恋、新奇和刺激、禁忌、激情和浪漫、非一夫一妻制以及性别转换和同性恋。我认为幻想受到生物、心理和社会文化因素的影响,这些因素共同作用。虽然人们的幻想在世界各地有着惊人的共通之处,表明有些主题似乎是普遍存在的,但文化差异也导致了一些不同。 Mariella Dehota: 我们的研究结果与你的数据非常吻合,我们发现了相同的类别,而且常见程度也大致相同。我认为,决定我们幻想内容的一个重要因素是文化中的禁忌,对大多数人来说,被禁止的东西是非常刺激的。在荷兰,最常见的幻想可能是权力动态的幻想,但很多人对这些幻想感到非常羞耻,因为他们觉得自己的幻想在政治上是不正确的。我们发现,人们会因为权力动态更加禁忌而将其情色化。虽然在我们的访谈中,完全没有出现“绿帽癖”这个主题,这让我们非常惊讶,但也许名人在荷兰文化中的作用不如在美国那么大。

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If you’re a long-time listener, you’ve probably heard me talk about my study abroad classes before). I take students all over the world to learn about sex and culture, and one of the many topics we explore is sexual fantasies, including how they are similar or different across cultures.

For example, in my Amsterdam course, we hear from Marielle de Goede, who along with her colleagues at Company New Heroes) conducted the largest ever study of sexual fantasies in the Netherlands and Belgium as part of a creative project titled *Yes, Please!) *They interviewed over 400 people about their fantasies and subsequently published a Dutch-language book about their findings under the same name. This project also resulted in various theatre performances and a traveling erotic exhibition. The goal of the project was to celebrate the erotic imagination and to break the taboos surrounding our fantasies and sexuality by bringing together art, storytelling, and science.

In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss Marielle’s project in more depth. Some of the topics we address include:

  • How similar or different are sexual fantasy themes around the world?

  • Why do Europeans seem to fantasize about cuckolding less than Americans?

  • How might our political beliefs affect our fantasies?

  • How do people feel about their sexual fantasies?

  • What do we know about the origins of our fantasies?

  • What’s the best way to share a fantasy with a partner?

If you’re interested in learning more and joining me on a study abroad trip this year, this blog has the registration information for all of our locations this year) — Amsterdam, Prague, Reykjavik, and Barcelona.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.)


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