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Episode 369: All About Orgasms

2025/2/7
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Justin Lehmiller: 我认为将性高潮视为团队项目可以减轻压力和焦虑,而不是认为这是伴侣单方面的责任。我们应该停止认为自己对伴侣的性高潮负全部责任,每个人在自己的性高潮中都扮演着角色,我们可以共同努力。同时,我也认为不应该在性高潮方面斤斤计较,这不利于建立健康和长期的关系。因为当你总是通过这种视角来思考时,可能会开始产生怨恨和其他问题,这会使性高潮不再是团队合作。 Candice Nicole Hargons: 我认为没有人会完全负责你的性高潮。你可以对自己的性高潮负个人责任,也可以让它成为共同的责任。针对女性的信息存在性别差异,女性被告知性行为直到伴侣达到性高潮才结束。我们应该互相帮助,共同实现性高潮。同时,我也认为性高潮公平可能是指在想要的时候达到性高潮,而不是每次都必须达到。也许你只是想处于快感唤醒状态,而不是每次都必须达到性高潮。我更喜欢更广泛的公平概念,而不是一比一的对等。

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This chapter explores the responsibility for achieving orgasm during sex, challenging the notion that it is solely the partner's duty. It also discusses the gendered aspects of this expectation and how it can negatively affect individuals and relationships.
  • Orgasm is a shared responsibility or a personal one, but never exclusively the partner's.
  • The idea of 'giving' an orgasm creates pressure and potential feelings of failure.
  • Gender disparity exists in societal expectations around orgasm responsibility.

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Let’s talk about orgasms! In today’s episode, we’re diving into a lot of interesting questions surrounding the big O. For example, who is responsible for your orgasm during sex: your partner or you? Also, is it ever OK to fake an orgasm? Additionally, we’ll explore strategies for having more orgasms if this is something you struggle with, as well as whether you can learn to be multiply-orgasmic.

My guest is Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons), an award-winning Associate Professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. With over 70 published articles, Dr. Hargons has made substantial contributions to the field. Her debut book titled, Good Sex), is now in print.

Some of the topics we address in this episode include:

  • Are orgasms something that our partners “give” us?

  • What do porn and popular media get wrong about how orgasms are portrayed?

  • What are the most common reasons why people fake orgasms?

  • How are orgasms defined scientifically?

  • The goal of closing the orgasm gap is to achieve orgasm equity. But what does orgasm equity actually look like?

You can check out Candice’s website) to learn more about her work.

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