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Episode 378: What It’s Like To Try Sugar Dating

2025/3/11
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Kate Metcalfe: 我研究了糖约会关系中的动力学,发现糖宝宝和糖金主的动机各不相同。糖宝宝主要寻求经济上的补偿,而糖金主则追求与年轻貌美的伴侣约会。此外,导师制也是糖约会中一个重要的组成部分,糖金主会为糖宝宝提供职业指导、人际关系建议或生活建议。糖约会关系中存在多种风险,包括身体上的风险、个人隐私泄露的风险以及糖金主对关系真实性的担忧。然而,我们的研究发现,糖宝宝和糖金主对他们在关系中的权力感知并没有显著差异,许多人认为糖宝宝拥有更多权力,因为她们更容易找到新的伴侣。糖约会关系的持续时间差异很大,从一个月到一百多个月不等。 总的来说,糖约会关系中存在多种复杂因素,既有积极的方面,也有消极的方面。我们不能简单地将糖约会定义为剥削或压迫,而需要更全面地理解其多方面的性质。 Justin Lehmiller: 我的研究也关注糖约会,特别是权力动态。我们发现,许多糖宝宝认为自己拥有与糖金主同等甚至更多的权力,这与普遍的认知相反。权力在关系中有多种形式,不能仅仅根据年龄或收入来判断谁拥有更多权力。糖约会通常包含性行为,但性行为并非所有糖约会关系的必备条件。糖约会关系的持续时间也差异很大,有些关系可以持续多年。 糖约会与性工作之间界限模糊,这使得对糖约会的理解和定义变得复杂。我们需要更深入地了解糖约会参与者的动机、体验和感受,才能更客观地评价这种关系模式。 Ashley Weller: 我的观点主要集中在群交的安全性与技巧上。在群交中,润滑剂的使用至关重要,同时需要充分沟通,确保所有参与者都同意并了解参与方式。此外,群交中性传播感染的风险较高,因此必须采取必要的安全措施,例如使用安全套或其他防护措施。酒精和毒品的使用也应谨慎,以免越界或发生意外。最后,在群交中,所有性行为都必须是双方自愿同意的,任何一方都不能强迫或胁迫另一方。

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Sugar dating is a type of transactional relationship in which sex and companionship are exchanged for some type of compensation. Reports suggest that there are millions of people engaging in this. In today’s show, we’re going to explore sugar dating relationships, including what draws people to it, the advantages and disadvantages of sugar dating, and who holds the power in a sugaring arrangement.

I am joined once again by Kate Metcalfe), a clinical psychology PhD student at the University of Texas at Austin and a member of Dr. Cindy Meston’s Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory). Kate’s research broadly focuses on sexual agency and motivation across different contexts and life stages.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • How is sugar dating defined? Is it a form of sex work?

  • Is sex always a component of sugar dating?

  • What are sugar babies and benefactors looking for from these relationships?

  • What are the biggest perceived benefits and drawbacks of sugar dating?

  • Who do sugar babies and benefactors see as having more power in their relationship?

You can connect with Kate on LinkedIn) to stay updated on her work.

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