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Episode 409: Does “Body Count” Really Matter?

2025/6/27
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Justin Lehmiller: 大家好,这期节目我们来聊聊“身体计数”这个话题。我知道很多人不喜欢“身体计数”这个词,觉得它听起来很负面。所以我们会讨论是否有更好的说法来代替它。同时,我们也会深入探讨相关的数据,比如人们平均有多少个性伴侣,以及这个数字在不同性别之间有什么差异。另外,我们还会探讨为什么人们似乎如此看重“身体计数”,以及它是否真的重要。很多人认为“身体计数”可以反映一个人的性能力和性健康状况,但实际上,如果我们真的想了解这些信息,有更好的问题可以问。我会和嘉宾Ashley Weller一起探讨这些问题。 Ashley Weller: 我认为“身体计数”这个说法非常不好,它带有异性恋规范色彩,忽略了其他性行为。我更喜欢用“性经验”或“性履历”来代替“身体计数”。我认为我们应该庆祝快乐,以及你在一段关系中的表现,而不是之前有多少人。我们国家对性赋予了太多的负面含义,这导致了“身体计数”的出现。我认为我们应该以好奇而非指责的态度来提问,并明确性行为的定义。

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How many people have you had sex with? In other words, what’s your “body count?” In this episode, we’re going to dive into the data. We’ll discuss the average number of sexual partners people report having, why men consistently report higher body counts than women, as well as why people seem to place so much emphasis on body count in the first place.

I am joined by Ashley Weller.) She is a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What’s your Position) that tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • Is there a better phrase than “body count” that we can use when referring to the number of partners we’ve had?

  • What’s the average body count among adults today, and how has it changed over time?

  • How does body count differ across gender?

  • What are people really asking when they inquire about body count?

  • Does body count actually tell you anything about someone else’s sexual health or competence?

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