Self-deprecation and shame-based motivation can cripple men, leading to depression, self-loathing, and destroyed relationships. Clean accountability involves taking ownership of mistakes without shame, using them as a mechanism for growth and change.
Blaming women for all problems creates a victim mindset, isolates men, and prevents genuine connections. It projects unresolved personal issues onto women, leading to loneliness and resentment rather than addressing the root causes of dissatisfaction.
Consuming mindless content wastes time and energy that could be directed toward personal growth. Instead, men should focus on content that supports their goals, whether in career, relationships, or personal development, to become the leaders, partners, and fathers they aspire to be.
Ignoring finances leads to debt, insecurity, and missed opportunities for growth. Educating oneself about saving, investing, and managing money is crucial to achieving financial stability and running personal finances like a business.
Outsourcing validation from external sources like women, friends, or colleagues creates dependency and insecurity. Building self-appreciation and recognizing one's own achievements fosters internal confidence and reduces the need for external approval.
Overworking leads to burnout, decreased productivity, and a misalignment with personal values and priorities. It prevents men from enjoying life, connecting with loved ones, and finding fulfillment outside of work.
Structure provides direction, purpose, and efficiency. It helps men organize their days, reduce burnout, and align their actions with their goals, whether in work, relationships, or personal routines.
Prioritizing rest prevents burnout, improves decision-making, and enhances overall well-being. Real rest involves undistracted solitude, such as meditation, nature walks, or journaling, rather than passive activities like scrolling through social media.
Resentment poisons relationships, intimacy, and personal fulfillment. Learning to forgive oneself and others is essential for moving forward and creating a life free from bitterness and anger.
Rejecting help leads to isolation and prevents men from overcoming challenges. Surrounding oneself with trusted mentors and peers provides guidance, feedback, and support, leading to personal and professional growth.
Talking points: mindset, new year new you
Anyone who knows me knows I'm not a big fan of New Year's Resolutions. So instead of adding another thing to do, be, or try to your list, why not take something away? These ten things come from my own experience as well as helping high-performing men in multiple fields. Listen in.
(00:00:00) - Stop self-deprecating, and start taking “clean accountability”
(00:04:16) - Stop blaming women for all your problems
(00:07:40) - Stop consuming mindless content. Switch it for content that supports your mission
(00:09:35) - If you are ignoring your finances, stooooop. Educate yourself
(00:13:36) - Stop outsourcing your validation, and stop overworking
(00:19:10) - Stop living without structure, and value rest
(00:24:27) - Let go of resentment, and stop rejecting support
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