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10 Things To Stop Doing In 2025

2024/12/26
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Conor Beaton: 停止自我贬低,开始进行“干净的责任承担”。不要因为犯错或没有达到不切实际的期望而羞辱自己。要学会接受错误,并将其作为改进的动力。 停止将所有问题归咎于女性。虽然你可能曾被女性伤害,但这并不意味着所有问题都源于女性。要承担个人责任,避免将女性妖魔化,并尝试真正了解你遇到的女性。 停止消费无意义的内容,转而消费支持你目标的内容。停止关注那些浪费时间和精力的内容,开始关注那些能够帮助你实现目标的内容,例如,阅读书籍、收听有价值的播客等。 停止忽视你的财务状况,开始学习理财知识。要学会管理个人财务,了解储蓄、投资等知识,避免财务上的焦虑和困境。 停止从外部寻求认可,开始自我认可。不要依赖他人的认可来获得自我价值感,要学会自我欣赏和肯定。 停止过度工作,学会休息。要学会平衡工作和生活,避免过度劳累导致的倦怠。要根据自身情况设定工作目标,避免过度工作。 停止没有结构的生活,建立生活结构。建立良好的生活习惯,例如早睡早起、制定计划等,能够提高效率,减少焦虑。 停止忽视休息,重视休息。要学会放松身心,避免过度劳累。要找到适合自己的休息方式,例如冥想、运动等。 停止怀恨在心,学会原谅。要学会放下过去,原谅伤害你的人,也原谅自己。 停止拒绝帮助和支持,寻求帮助。要学会寻求他人的帮助和支持,不要独自承担压力。要建立良好的人际关系,寻求朋友和家人的帮助。

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Why should men stop self-deprecating and take 'clean accountability' instead?

Self-deprecation and shame-based motivation can cripple men, leading to depression, self-loathing, and destroyed relationships. Clean accountability involves taking ownership of mistakes without shame, using them as a mechanism for growth and change.

What is the problem with blaming women for all of a man's issues?

Blaming women for all problems creates a victim mindset, isolates men, and prevents genuine connections. It projects unresolved personal issues onto women, leading to loneliness and resentment rather than addressing the root causes of dissatisfaction.

Why is it important to stop consuming 'calorie-less' content?

Consuming mindless content wastes time and energy that could be directed toward personal growth. Instead, men should focus on content that supports their goals, whether in career, relationships, or personal development, to become the leaders, partners, and fathers they aspire to be.

What are the consequences of ignoring personal finances?

Ignoring finances leads to debt, insecurity, and missed opportunities for growth. Educating oneself about saving, investing, and managing money is crucial to achieving financial stability and running personal finances like a business.

Why should men stop outsourcing validation?

Outsourcing validation from external sources like women, friends, or colleagues creates dependency and insecurity. Building self-appreciation and recognizing one's own achievements fosters internal confidence and reduces the need for external approval.

What is the impact of overworking on men?

Overworking leads to burnout, decreased productivity, and a misalignment with personal values and priorities. It prevents men from enjoying life, connecting with loved ones, and finding fulfillment outside of work.

Why is structure important in a man's life?

Structure provides direction, purpose, and efficiency. It helps men organize their days, reduce burnout, and align their actions with their goals, whether in work, relationships, or personal routines.

What is the significance of prioritizing rest?

Prioritizing rest prevents burnout, improves decision-making, and enhances overall well-being. Real rest involves undistracted solitude, such as meditation, nature walks, or journaling, rather than passive activities like scrolling through social media.

Why should men let go of resentment?

Resentment poisons relationships, intimacy, and personal fulfillment. Learning to forgive oneself and others is essential for moving forward and creating a life free from bitterness and anger.

Why is it crucial for men to stop rejecting help and support?

Rejecting help leads to isolation and prevents men from overcoming challenges. Surrounding oneself with trusted mentors and peers provides guidance, feedback, and support, leading to personal and professional growth.

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This chapter emphasizes the importance of shifting from self-deprecating behavior to clean accountability. It highlights how self-criticism can hinder progress and suggests focusing on taking ownership of mistakes without self-shaming.
  • Clean accountability involves taking ownership of mistakes without self-shaming.
  • Self-deprecation, while sometimes used as motivation, can become detrimental and lead to depression and self-loathing.
  • Replacing self-criticism with constructive self-evaluation is crucial for personal growth.

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Talking points: mindset, new year new you

Anyone who knows me knows I'm not a big fan of New Year's Resolutions. So instead of adding another thing to do, be, or try to your list, why not take something away? These ten things come from my own experience as well as helping high-performing men in multiple fields. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Stop self-deprecating, and start taking “clean accountability”

(00:04:16) - Stop blaming women for all your problems

(00:07:40) - Stop consuming mindless content. Switch it for content that supports your mission

(00:09:35) - If you are ignoring your finances, stooooop. Educate yourself

(00:13:36) - Stop outsourcing your validation, and stop overworking

(00:19:10) - Stop living without structure, and value rest

(00:24:27) - Let go of resentment, and stop rejecting support


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