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A Man's Guide To Healing The Mother Wound

2025/5/15
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Connor Beaton: 我发现很多男性在与女性相处时遇到困难,这往往与他们未曾疗愈的母性创伤有关。这种创伤可能导致他们在人际关系中感到困惑、不信任,甚至影响他们的自我价值感。荣格的“吞噬母亲”原型是理解母性创伤的关键。每个人内心都有一个理想化的母亲形象,期望从母亲那里获得安全感、信任感等。然而,当现实与理想不符时,就会产生创伤。这种创伤可能表现为过度警觉、情感封闭、过度成就或长期失败。更重要的是,它会影响我们与女性建立健康关系的能力,甚至导致成瘾行为。因此,疗愈母性创伤对于建立健康的人际关系和提升自我价值至关重要。 Connor Beaton: 我认为,疗愈母性创伤的第一步是承认和接受创伤的存在,打破否认,并理解创伤不是弱点。我们需要反思母亲教给我们关于爱的定义,以及我们与母亲的关系如何影响我们看待和对待女性的方式。第二步是学会调节自己的身体,因为母性创伤会导致神经系统无法与母亲分离,或将母亲视为威胁。我们可以通过冷 exposure、呼吸练习或 somatic experiencing 来调节神经系统。第三步是 reparenting 内在小孩,并开始 individuation,区分自己与女性的需求和愿望。最后,我们需要 insource 自己的自我价值,并停止将母亲的形象投射到伴侣身上。通过这些步骤,我们可以找到情感独立和情感主权,从而建立健康的人际关系和提升自我价值。

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This chapter explores the concept of a mother wound, its origins in the relationship with one's mother, and its various forms. It delves into how these wounds manifest in adulthood, impacting relationships and self-perception.
  • Mother wounds stem from discrepancies between the idealized mother archetype and the actual maternal experience.
  • Four main types of mother wounds are identified: Devouring Mother, Masculine Mom, Ghost Mom, and Man-Obsessed Mom.
  • Each type is characterized by specific behaviors and their impact on the son's development.
  • These wounds lead to various adult issues, including hypervigilance, shutdown, projection, and over/underachievement.

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Talking points: psychology, masculinity

If you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations

(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries

(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it

(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.

(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you

(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projections

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