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A Man's Guide To Leading Through Conflict

2025/5/1
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Conor Beaton: 我在节目中分享了关于如何在关系中处理冲突的建议。首先,选择一个你愿意并且她也愿意和你一起处理冲突的人。这很重要,因为信任和尊重是有效沟通的基础。我过去曾与我不信任或不尊重的人约会,这导致了各种问题。理想情况下,你们双方都愿意坦诚地面对冲突,并且能够承担责任。 其次,你的神经系统会影响冲突的基调。作为男性,由于潜在的攻击性,你的反应会对冲突的走向产生重大影响。如果你能保持冷静和 grounded,就能更好地控制局面。相反,如果你是回避冲突或过度反应,这会让对方感到不安全。因此,了解你自己的反应模式,并在冲突中保持镇定非常重要。 第三,你需要制定一些参与规则。这包括设定界限,例如避免人身攻击、辱骂或轻蔑。重要的是,要记住冲突不是为了获胜,而是为了解决问题和增进理解。双方都应该致力于尊重彼此的观点,并尝试找到共同点。 第四,停止试图去“修复”伴侣的情绪。这通常会适得其反,因为这会让对方感觉不被尊重,好像他们无法处理自己的情绪。与其试图解决问题,不如专注于理解他们的感受。倾听并验证他们的感受比试图提供解决方案更重要。 第五,不要落入“陷阱”。当你的伴侣挑衅你时,不要被激怒。试着去理解他们行为背后的需求,这通常是缺乏连接或理解。与其回应他们的挑衅,不如尝试连接并满足他们的需求。 最后,主动引导修复过程。这并不意味着承担所有责任,而是发起对话并给予伴侣选择权。你可以表达你想要修复关系的意愿,并询问他们是否愿意一起努力。即使冲突没有完全解决,主动引导修复过程也能帮助你们更好地处理冲突,并增进彼此的理解和信任。

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Talking points: conflict, relationships

You're going to get into arguments. There will be differences of opinion. But what if those were gateways to something more? Today, the latest in the Man's Guide series.

(00:00:00) - Choose someone you’re willing to conflict with, and be someone she’s willing to conflict with, too.

(00:04:11) - Your nervous system sets the tone.

(00:07:41) - You need rules of engagement.

(00:10:45) - Stop trying to “fix” her emotions.

(00:15:25) - Don’t fall for The Trap. Connect instead.

(00:18:47) - Lead the repair.


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