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How To Lead In A Relationship—Your Next Step

2025/4/17
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Ryan Michler: 我认为在一段关系中，男性领导力并非意味着支配或控制，而是指通过积极的影响力，与伴侣共同努力，实现共同的目标。这并非是性别歧视，而是指引方向，共同成长。许多女性并非反对男性领导，而是反对被当作仆人或被轻视。健康的领导力是相互的，既要影响他人，也要接受他人的影响。如果伴侣表示不需要男性，这可能预示着一段缺乏相互影响的不健康关系。 首先，在一段关系中有效领导的关键是首先要做好自我领导。这包括关注身心健康、财务状况等方面，以赢得伴侣的尊重。自我提升是建立信任的基础，因为人们更关注你的行动而非言语。 其次，在伴侣情绪低落时，有效的领导力在于成为倾听者和支持者，而非试图解决所有问题。询问伴侣是否需要帮助解决问题，体现了尊重和相互影响的领导力。重要的是，不要将伴侣的情绪过于个人化，即使伴侣的情绪并非针对自己。接受伴侣的情绪，即使这些情绪并非针对自己，也是一种重要的能力。 最后，在一段关系中，领导力体现在主动建立联系和修复关系上。主动发起亲密接触、玩耍，或者主动询问伴侣一天的经历，都是建立连接的方式。在发生冲突后，主动承担责任并寻求修复关系，也是有效的领导力表现。主动承认错误，并寻求修复关系，是维系关系的关键。不仅在发生冲突时，即使感觉与伴侣之间存在距离，也要主动寻求修复，重新建立连接。

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This chapter defines leadership in a relationship, clarifying that it's not about dominance but reciprocal influence towards shared goals. It addresses misconceptions about leadership in relationships and highlights the importance of mutual influence for a healthy dynamic.
  • Leadership in a relationship is about reciprocal influence, not dominance.
  • Ignoring those who say men shouldn't lead in relationships is advised.
  • A healthy relationship involves mutual influence and benefit for both partners.

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Talking points: relationships, leadership

A while back, I launched a video on how men can better lead themselves and their relationships. It got a ton of dialogue, let's just say. Here's what I mean by lead, and three definitive steps to getting it right.

(00:00:00) - Defining what “lead” actually means

(00:04:08) - The first thing to do

(00:07:14) - Stop taking her emotions personally

(00:12:47) - Lead in connection, lead in repair

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