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Men's Work Session - A Man's Missing Keystone, A Father's Self-Indulgence

2025/6/16
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Participant: 我一直觉得自己不完整，好像缺少了人生的拱心石。我在清醒和迷失之间摇摆，渴望被爱和被认可。在家庭中，我感到自己不属于那里，总是在等待被选择。我不想被迫在父母之间做出选择，因为我不知道该去哪里，每次我落脚的地方，家都在另一个地方。我渴望被别人需要，我能理解父亲的行为，但我仍然对他感到愤怒，因为他抛弃了我，让我感到孤独和困惑。现在，我意识到我需要与我的内在小孩联系，并成为他需要的父亲。我需要释放隐藏在阴影中的愤怒，并把它放在它真正应该在的地方。 Connor Beeden: 你经历的，是你内心渴望完整的分裂。你需要研究和理解什么是“第一质素”，它指向的是我们不承认、不拥有或断开连接的部分。你生活中对原始一面的压抑、摇摆不定、总是需要更多经验、缺少拱心石、梦中总是缺少东西，都表明你经历的分裂和你对完整的内在追求。你还需要研究“受伤的翠鸟”，因为你童年的经历一直在你内心重演。你与自己的力量和潜力有联系，但它会被压抑到无意识中，然后消失。追求完整的过程中，需要揭示隐藏在阴影中的东西。我们今天所做的工作，就是把隐藏在阴影中的愤怒释放出来，并把它放在它真正应该在的地方。本来应该对父亲发泄的愤怒，却转向了自己，开始评判自己。当你开始把阴影中的东西带到意识层面，你会发现你内心的体验会更加平衡。愤怒并没有消失，它只是从你的视野中消失了。

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A high-achieving man feels like he's hit a plateau, despite having everything he needs. He experiences a dualistic life, oscillating between states of limitless energy and feeling completely lost. He seeks to understand why he holds himself back and explores the triggers that shift him between these states.
  • High performance plateau
  • Dualistic experiences (limitless energy vs. feeling lost)
  • Seeking self-understanding
  • Triggers: validation, clear purpose

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Talking points: inner child, fatherhood, abandonment, the shadow

Fair warning, there's a lot of F-bombs in this one. We've kept them in because I want people to get a sense of how deep a father wound can go. My guest has struggled with a kind of dualistic life. One day, he's crushing it and confident. The next, he feels uncertain and lost.

This is a heavy one, team, but absolutely worth checking out.

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