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Navigating The Two Biggest Attachment Styles

2025/5/19
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Connor Beaton: 作为焦虑型依恋者,我总是觉得只有当别人状态好的时候,我才能感觉好。这种信念深深植根于我的童年经历,我总是把别人的需求放在第一位,认为只有满足了别人的需求,我才能获得安全感和价值感。我常常过度关注伴侣的情绪和状态,不断寻求他们的认可和肯定,这让我和我的伴侣都感到疲惫。我意识到,这种焦虑源于童年时期父母的不稳定和不可预测,我需要学会信任自己,而不是依赖外界的认可。

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This chapter explores the core of anxious attachment, explaining its central belief of needing others' well-being to feel okay. It discusses the development of this style, often rooted in childhood experiences. The chapter also contrasts anxious attachment with avoidant attachment.
  • Anxious attachment is centered on the belief 'I'm not okay unless you're okay'.
  • It's a learned behavior, often stemming from childhood experiences.
  • Anxious individuals are hyper-focused on external validation and reassurance.

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Talking points: psychology, attachment theory

We've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now.

(00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment

(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship

(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath

(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy 

(00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment 

(00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood

(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship

(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tactics

For EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.com/attachment-guide)

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