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Why Men Cheat

2025/7/3
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Conor Beaton: 我发现男性出轨往往是为了维系现有的关系，而非像女性那样是为了结束关系。许多来找我咨询出轨问题的男性，常常自己也不清楚为何会发生这种事。他们可能只是想要得到关注，或者觉得现有的关系并不那么糟糕，但实际上，他们是在试图通过出轨来弥补关系中的缺失。这种行为背后，是一种理性的考量，他们珍惜现有的关系，不希望完全失去，但又无法在关系中得到全部的满足，因此转向其他地方寻求慰藉。对我来说，过去我出轨的主要原因是我不喜欢自己，自我价值感很低，所以需要从外部寻求认可和肯定。当我在一段关系中感觉良好时，我反而会下意识地破坏这种亲密感，因为我害怕真正的亲近和承诺。我会通过出轨来保持一种距离，避免更深层次的连接。

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This chapter explores the common reasons behind male infidelity, challenging the notion of simple answers. It introduces the concept that men often cheat to maintain the primary relationship, unlike women who may cheat as a precursor to leaving. The core issue is often a dysfunction within the relationship that the man hasn't been able to resolve.
  • Men cheat to stay, women cheat to leave.
  • Infidelity in men is often rooted in unresolved relationship issues.
  • Loyalty and a desire to maintain the primary relationship are common factors.

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Talking points: relationships, infidelity

Not the happiest of talking points today, team, but it's always worth discussing. There's no universal reason for it, but from my own experience and years of working with men, I've seen some common themes. Here's a quick breakdown of the top reasons, plus the underlying motivation for almost every man that's knocked on my door.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the underlying motivation for a majority of men

(00:03:40) - Reasons that fall into this category

(00:10:53) - One of the main drivers for my own infidelity, and how attachment styles can play into it

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