Carlie Cares for Everyone, But Who's Caring for Carlie?
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Thanks for downloading my Call of the Day podcast. You too can participate in my live radio program heard weekdays from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Carly, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call. I really value your wisdom and I'm hoping you can help me in this situation. I am 46, my husband's 51, and my mother's 81. We recently moved out of our home to move into my mother's home to be caregivers. My brother, who is 57, was living there for 11 years and

And he decided to move out to live with his girlfriend. Plus, he wasn't kind to my mom. He was kind of a bully. So when my husband and I were living in our house, I would just come and visit my mom once a week, take her shopping. That was okay. Since we've moved into the home, my mother...

I didn't realize she doesn't have hobbies. She wants to go everywhere my husband and I go. She thinks it's going to be the three musketeers. So I ended up getting a caregiver because I couldn't take it. I felt like my work productivity declined. I was waking up in tears. I just couldn't take it anymore.

The caregivers have come and she just told me she didn't like one of the caregivers today because she felt like she wasn't clean. I don't know what that meant. So she told her she could leave two hours early. Yesterday, the caregiver a couple of days ago, she didn't want to walk the dog with her because she didn't like her hair. She did wear a bonnet and I did let them know for her not to come that way. So my question is, have I told my husband I would like us, we still have the other house. I was like, well,

I want to move back. I don't want to sell the house anymore because I can't between now and dead. I don't want to live like this. What can I do? And he says, we can't move back. Mom doesn't have anyone to take care of her. We're going to have to take care of her. I just, this is challenging. Whose mother is this? My mother. Why is your husband so committed to making sure that the two of you are taking care of your mother? What's his motivation here? Because he's,

I guess he just sees no, my mom's single and she's on a very fixed income. And my brother, while he was there, he didn't really do much. No, no, no. You're missing the point. It's very unusual for the son-in-law to want to sacrifice everything, his privacy, his place to live, his wife's sanity, for her mother. So think a little bit. What's that about?

You've told him how miserable you are and how you're not going to survive doing this, and he's insistent. Why would he be more committed to that than you? I never thought about that, Dr. Laura, honestly. The only thing I can think of is the money that we're putting in renovating the house. God forbid something happens to my mom. I know that we've discussed that perhaps we should get a trust and I should be the co-trustee, but my brother fights me on that, so...

and i don't want to say the word i don't know because i know you don't like that so that's the only thing i can think of i he really gets along with my mom i think he feels very bad for her my mom saw how she sees how upset i am and she tells my husband please don't leave me i don't you know please don't leave here i know carly's not happy and he's shared that with me does anybody care about carly except me your mother doesn't care about carly

Your husband doesn't care about Carly. I heard the pain in your voice. I feel like taking you home to my house. You're in the middle, ready to explode, because Carly doesn't matter on either side of Carly. This is bullshit. What do I do?

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You're going to have to sit down with both of them and say, I'm not going to stay here. I'm going to go back into the house. I can't do this. I'm too overwhelmed. I care about you, Mom, and I'm very sorry, but you guys have got to come up with an alternative plan. Okay. My mental and my emotional health are declining. Can't do this.

It is. It is. It's called the truth. And say, in a week, I'm going back into my house. You two can stay here and figure out alternatives. Then they will have to come up with alternatives. Okay. I hope you have the balls to do this or you're going to be the one on antidepressants. You're right. I'm waking up so sad. That's right. And this isn't going to get better, sweetheart.

I believe in giving and sacrificing, but not when it costs you the quality of your life. No. And I don't like, I mean, if you're being accurate, I do not like that Carly doesn't matter to anybody. And I still don't know what your husband's, what's his part in the game? I don't know. Something about the house? What is it?

I thought he just cared for my mom. And he feels that because he comes from a very good family. Does he? Parents have been married for over 50 years. That's nice. And you may be that way where he has been taught that it's more important to care for the prior generation than the one you're married to. And if that's his philosophy, then you have to go back to your old house. And they can stay together. And he can take care of her. Okay. Okay.

Well, thank you so much for caring and making me realize who cares for Carly because, I mean, in my role, I'm a nurse also. I'm caring for everyone. I'm splitting me to everyone in nursing and marriage with my mom. And, yeah, you're right. I have no downtime. Who's caring for me? You're absolutely right, Dr. Laura. Thank you. That's right. You're very welcome, and don't you forget that, okay? Okay, Dr. Laura. Thank you again. Have a good day.

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