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In 2010, I went through a divorce. I now have two adult children, a 21-year-old son. Okay, you went through the divorce because? Because? Because we just weren't a great pair and...
I just needed to get out of it. It was not a good marriage. We were married for 17 years and it took a long time for me to get out of that. So I did ask for the divorce and we decided on joint custody, but I was the primary custodial parent.
And as you know, I register the kids, I pay for them, and then I send the receipts to be reimbursed by my ex-husband. And he would never pay. So this went on for years. I had to go through a five-year court case. I finally was awarded $40,000 from him for all of the unpaid expenses. And then the mediator and judge said, listen, moving forward,
You need to go through our family wizard because this way you'll keep track. You enter the expenses every month. He pays you the next month. If there's a dispute, we will mediate it. So this has been going on for several years and it has worked pretty well up until a couple months ago. And for some reason, my ex-husband will not return messages, will not pay me anything that I've paid on behalf of the children. For some reason? For some reason? He's
Yeah. I mean, I don't know. Well, he doesn't want to pay it. Geez. Doesn't want to pay it. All right. I'm sorry. I blanked out completely on the age of the kids. How old are they now today? 21 and 19. Okay. So my question to you is, well, I don't understand. Why is he paying anything now? They're adults.
Help me. Well, they're in college, so there's college expenses, you know, things come up, medical, right? You know, running shoes, my son's a cross-country runner, things like that. So my question to you is, you know, I don't want to put the kids in the middle, but if I continue to keep doing this, I will be...
not getting reimbursed and I will be in a big hole. So my question is, is it okay to tell my adult children, you know, I'm going to take myself out of this equation and I want you to directly talk to your dad about reimbursing you for expenses or giving you money for expenses. What do you think of that?
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I'm thinking. Just give me a moment. Do they know what's going on? Yes. And what is their attitude? They don't want to deal with him either. And because I said like, hey, get his credit card for DoorDash or get his credit card. I don't want to do it. And they said, yeah, but he never does it. Like he never responds. Okay, slow down. Okay, slow down. I suggest here would be my recommendation for your mental health. If they want a cell phone, if they want DoorDash,
If they want fancy shoes other than what they need for running, they're going to have to get a part-time job and pay for it themselves. Leave your ex out of the equation. It's causing great anguish all the way around, resentment, frustration. So you'll have to sit with them and say, I'm going to take care of you. However, you're going to have to get a part-time job and help me do that. I'm not paying for DoorDash. I'm not giving you a credit card for DoorDash. Buy food and cook. It's cheaper.
You want fancy shoes? Get them yourself. If you want running shoes because you're on the track team, I will do that. But you're going to have to start. You're both adults now. You're going to have to start contributing. I'm sorry I married the wrong man. Married the wrong man to make the wrong man your dad. But here we are. It's been so many years. I'm done dealing with it. So this is what I'd like us to cooperate. I am done dealing with it.
There's like $600 orthotics that my son needs to run and my daughter is on the dance team. And that's very expensive, too. Well, they're going to have to figure out how to pay for it. Okay. I got a part-time job at the university. I worked in the biology lab. I worked in the chemistry library. I worked and earned money for anything above and beyond tuition and room and board and books. Come on.
Yeah, I mean, I did too, doctor. I mean, I hear what you're saying. It's just he runs 20 hours a week. She dances 20 hours a week. It is a lot. And it's hard to get a job because they're, you know, they have to go. You know, they're going to have to figure it out. Jeez. But they are going to have to make sure there's no hardship. Let's raise our kids to not face any hardship by themselves.
Let's just let them. I mean, does your daughter, does she expect to dance as an adult professional? No, she is going to be a psychologist. Stop. Stop. Man, yes, no questions require one syllable. Then she doesn't need to be dancing 20 hours. She can do that on her own.
I watched Flash dance. That girl danced on her own time. She didn't pay anybody for it. Okay? Number two, is he planning to try for the Olympics?
No. Then he doesn't need to be running 20 hours a week. He can do that on his own. I see people running through the streets all the time. I see them at the high school, at the two-year school, when nobody's there, running on the track. If he wants to do that, he can do that. You are spoiling the hell out of them and putting yourself in a financial hole. In my opinion, it stopped yesterday. Well, I'm not going to do it anymore.
Good. And that's it. My number, I don't believe you're not going to do it anymore. That's not what you said. Okay. My number, 1-800, there's no reason either one of them has to do that for 20 hours. It's not in their future. You've been spoiling them. And this has been a hell of a lot of money. And that's probably one of the reasons he just doesn't want to pay anymore. He doesn't see the point of 20 hours of being on your toes if it's ballet.
Which case in the future, she's going to need a lot of rehab with her feet. I hope a lot of you parents just heard this call. Straighten yourselves out, please. Come on. My number 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars.
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