Don't Do Business Like a Girl
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Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Sue, welcome to the program. Hi.

Hi, what can I do for you? I'm calling because we have been going through a family estate issue for four years, almost. Who died? Whose estate? Whose money? Who are we talking about? Give me the players.

My dad passed away. He was married twice, once to my mom and then once to my stepmom. So he had three children from the first marriage and two children from the second. And we've always been, you know, relatively close, but not super close. We've got a mostly my dad's estate was this family farm. It's been in the family for over 100 years.

that I've been mostly taking care of for the last 11 years as far as managing the different contracts and dealing with all the repairs. And to whom did he leave? To whom did he leave the farm? To the five children. So he wanted you to split it five ways, the farm?

Well, that's, yes, I guess that's the case. My husband's the executive. Don't guess. Don't guess. I need to understand what his will said. What did his will say about the farm? His will said I leave the farm to my five children. That's terrible when people do that. Okay.

We've all been committed to wanting to keep it in the family, to not having it develop. But unfortunately, one of the five children has had kind of a vendetta against me since 2016 and has made the process miserable for me and for my husband. By doing what? How did that person have that much power?

by every communication having insightful I'm not insightful but you know passive aggressive comments trying to accuse my husband

Essentially feeling like, you know, like, just really petty stuff, which could always be refuted, but. He eventually made life so miserable that I gave up the portion that I was originally going to want to get because he was making it so difficult and trying to.

you know, say he didn't, he didn't agree with the appraisers and getting other people to come on board with that and then trying to take over part of that property. So I finally gave up that quest, which I have been taking care of it, the whole thing for 11 years. And, um,

Then they, I said, you know, I would take this other portion. They have given a proposal, which I don't think is a fair proposal. So I ended up hiring an attorney because I felt like every, I wasn't respected in anything that I was suggesting. And what about, how about the other three siblings, half siblings? What did they do?

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Every sandwich has bread. Every burger has a bun. But these warm, golden, smooth steamed buns? These are special. Reserved for the very best. The Filet-O-Fish and you.

You can have them too. And you can have it all at two for $6. Like a Filet-O-Fish, Big Mac, 10-piece McNuggets, or large fries. Limited time only. Price and participation may vary. Cannot be combined with any other offer. Single item at regular price. Ba-da-ba-ba-ba.

There's one that's the primary go-to. He's the member manager of the LLC that owns half of the farm, and he's kind of the go-to guy for making things go together. So he's been kind of steering the ship. One brother has been very antagonistic. The other two have been very passive.

Yeah. And now they're very, very angry that I hired an attorney to be my voice. So what? Just because two people had sex and eggs and sperm got together doesn't make any of them decent family members. And you should have taken care of this with an attorney sooner. So you would have suffered less. I agree. So screw them. Who cares if they're pissed off? What do you care?

Well, they definitely have made me out to be the villain pretty much the entire process. Well, because they're either creepy or they stand by and like to watch car accidents. Yeah, that's how it feels for sure in my shoes. No, the big thing here is that you're putting too much into DNA. Okay.

So do I just let the attorney do his thing, which might even end up meaning... Absolutely. You set that attorney, you go, go for it. Get what I deserve. Go for it. Don't care who you piss off. Do it. Wow. Okay. Which definitely will, you know, solidify their...

I guess I'd say hatred towards me, which... Not one of them cares about you. Yeah, that's what it seems like. It doesn't seem like it. Not one of them cares about you. It's not an interpretive issue. Yeah, okay. So them being mad at you, they didn't care about you. Who cares if they're mad at you? They didn't care about you. Right.

And your father, with his guilt-ridden crap of two marriages, five kids, died and left you all to, you know, eat each other up in the forest. That was pretty crappy of him. He didn't want to deal with it. He didn't want to deal with it. He wanted you all to fight it out.

What do you do with the fact that I've been really carrying the weight on my shoulders? That's what the attorney is for. You go and you get more than the equal share because you deserve more for the work you did. The attorney fights it, not you. Okay. All right. Well, that's the hard piece. This is what's scary about women doing business around the world. We too often go into, but I don't want anybody to hate me.

What is that? It's business, baby. Well, I don't want to. Honey, don't act like a freaking girl. Oh, my God. Just don't talk. Don't act like a girl. When you're doing business, you don't act like a girl. Right. This is business. Okay. They want their stuff. And they're trying to intimidate you out of it. And you almost collapsed with the, oh, I don't know. I'll just...

Don't want my share. I just don't want to be exasperated. Please. They were waiting for that. Yeah, I've had that been said. All righty. Well, thank you very much for that clarity. Good. I hope you are really clear. Really clear. Yeah. Okay, good. My number. Yeah, her father was a coward. He didn't want to deal with it.

I've heard that happening so often. I don't want to have to choose, so I'm just going to say, throw it out there. You all figure it out. That's just terrible. Seriously. My number, 1-800-375-2872. When you're doing business, forget you're a girl. Make yourself a business person.

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Every sandwich has bread. Every burger has a bun. But these warm, golden, smooth steamed buns? These are special. Reserved for the very best. The Filet-O-Fish and you.

You can have them too. And you can have it all at two for $6. Like a Filet-O-Fish, Big Mac, 10-piece McNuggets, or large fries. Limited time only. Price and participation may vary. Cannot be combined with any other offer. Single item at regular price. Ba-da-ba-ba-ba.