Getting My Marriage Right
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So I had just had the flu and I wasn't feeling good. And now I've gone back to work and I still have some residual effects. Plus, going back to work is stressful. And a couple of days ago, my husband's family had messaged him that his grandmother had booked a last minute flight to come see the family and that they were going to have a barbecue at their house.

And it was very last minute. I think we had two days notice and my husband had mentioned it to me and I told him since I wasn't feeling well and I was feeling burnt out that I wanted to take an extra day at home to rest and recover. And he got really upset and

Asked me again to go and I told him I really think I need to stay home and just prioritize my rest. And it's now blown up to where he feels that he's not being prioritized or his needs that he wanted to go somewhere when I wasn't feeling well. And I feel kind of hurt because he isn't prioritizing anything.

my health. So I'm really struggling for us to see eye to eye in the situation. And if I am wrong, I want to be able to remedy the situation. Since I am newly married, I want to strengthen my relationship. I'm not sure what to do. Is that the only reason? Do you have any other reasons of not wanting to hang with his? You can tell me. Do you have any other reasons you don't want to hang with his family? Is there more background to this?

His family isn't really the nicest. They are very superficial where they will chat, make small talk, but they're not genuinely caring where, you know, they only reach out for baby showers or Christmas. It's not like they're...

very connected and my husband's even mentioned that so i didn't really see it as a priority since he barely wants to go see them as well he even told me that this is something he's doing to make his father happy and not something he genuinely wanted to go to so i really struggled to prioritize it especially since i wasn't feeling well okay that was very important piece of information

Your husband is not totally grown up yet. Mm-hmm. He's admitting that he's doing it to not piss off dad. Mm-hmm. If you don't show up, he'll get comments about, why isn't she here? Yeah. And he's embarrassed about that. That's exactly what he said. So he's a little bit in a pickle. Yes. And he's not totally mature yet. He hasn't quite left home. He's sort of on a bridge between you and his prior home, that family. Mm-hmm.

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So I believe he means well, but he's becoming a bit of an idiot because he's thinking more about the impact on him than how his job is as your man and your husband is to protect you against everybody and everything. And right now, he's not protecting you from his more less mature pressures.

Yeah. And that's what I really, I mentioned this in our argument that as a married couple, you create your own family that is prioritized before your other immediate family. He can't hear that from you.

He is going to hear it from me because when we're done, we're going to email you, if you agree, we're going to email you the audio from our conversation so he can hear it from me. A real man protects his woman from anything and everyone, including his prior family and his own less mature needs. That's his job to protect and provide you.

And he's still his daddy's little boy to some extent, not 100% because he has admitted to you some of what we're talking about. But he's got to either tell my wife is not well, so I'm going to stay home with her, or she's not well and she said I should come and have a good time with you folks while she rests. That's what a real man does. He's not quite there yet.

But he could really turn the corner after hearing me say that. Okay. Thank you, Dr. Lohr. I really appreciate that. You're very welcome. May I put you on hold so that you can give your email address and then we'll take care of it. Okay? Sounds good. Thank you so much. Good. You're very welcome. Yeah, he's salvageable. He just needs to hear it from me. Yeah. He hears it from his wife and he just gets defensive. He knows she's right.

That's why he's so defensive. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.

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