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Valid for 20% off site-wide. Standard exclusions apply. Valid March 5th, 2025 through May 30th, 2025. Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Rebecca, welcome to the program. Thank you, Dr. Laura. You're welcome. What can I help you with?
First of all, I'd like to say thank you for being on the air still. I've listened to you since my kids were little.
And you taught me through a lot when they were infants. So thank you. But I'm calling now or wanting to talk to you because I have been married for 26 years. My kids are in college now. Bottom line is I love my husband, but he is a habitual cheater. Has been almost through the entire marriage, whether it's just talking to other women, going on dates, and then me finding out later.
And it's gotten to the point where he told me pretty much he doesn't know if he's in love with me anymore. And he... I do have a tiny question for you. I do have a tiny question for you. It's kind of a tiny one. Love, to me, is defined not by dependency, fears. It's defined by awe, admiration, and respect. That's love. The feeling...
that keeps some people in situations that may seem appalling to others is not love. People can call it love, but that doesn't make it so. That's a kind of sad dependency, a wishfulness, and stuff that isn't concrete or real. And as we all know anyway, if you want to persist in saying you love him, then I would say love is not enough to have a quality life with somebody. Clearly in this case,
It doesn't warrant he doesn't respect you. He's not caring about you. He's not thoughtful about you. He's abusive to you. And I wouldn't say on the other side, the feeling and response is love. But a lot of people stay in situations which are really unpleasant for a myriad of reasons that frankly aren't that healthy. So arguing about it is kind of silly. If between now and dead...
This is as satisfied as you wish to be in a relationship. If this is as satisfied as you wish to be, then you got it made. Wow. Yeah. Yeah. That's... Are you aware that you're going to be dead? A lot of people don't think about that. But I encourage people to think about being dead. I have a dear friend. Last week, his dearly beloved parents are gone.
So his sister got killed in a car crash, just boop, like that. And they were very, very close. And it also scares people when siblings start going because then they realize, yeah, was it natural causes though? But anything can happen. So the question I have for you, are you aware that sooner rather than later, you're going to be dead?
Oh, I am. And I just need a yes or no. I just need a yes or no. I should have said that. Yeah. Okay. Well, if you're really aware of it, then here's my sentence. Between this moment and dead, is this how you wish your life to be? And that's not a question you have to answer right now, but it's a question you need to ask yourself. I will be dead.
There's no second round. I'm not going to be able to do any of this again. I'm never going to be young again. Am I never really to be happy in a trusting, loving relationship? Am I just too scared or too habituated in this condition? You have to ask yourself that. And you're the only one. There are a lot of people who stay in horrendous situations until they die because they're just more comfortable than imagining trying something else.
That's not comfortable for most people. Change is not comfortable for most people. I understand. I understand. I think I know another reason that I stay is financial reasons. I'm afraid to be on my own financially. Yeah, I know. You shouldn't say you're in love. You should say you're in afraid. You're not in love with him. Let's just stop saying silly things like that.
You're right. To love a man, you have to be awed by him and respect him and be so impressed with his character and his virtue. Let's not use love. Let's use scared. I'm scared. I am scared. I'm very scared. Okay. With some people, scared is a red light. With some people, scared is a yellow light. You might want to shift to yellow and just find out financially from an attorney privately how...
how it would be. Just get information. You don't have to do anything with it. But scaredy stuff is usually helped along with information. Would it really be that bad? And if it's not that bad, and it's more like A, it's supposed to be A, would that be worth having some peace and self-respect for the rest of my life? Thank you. Yes.
Yeah, I would love peace in my life. Then you'd have to go through a bit of an uncomfortable. I mean, we can look at it even the stupidest way. You go to a movie theater and the only seats available is one in the center. So you have to walk by all these people's knees with them grumbling and getting up. And it's just, you know, and then you get to the seat and you watch a movie. So sometimes we just have to go through discomfort to get what we truly want and need.
Because without going through the discomfort, we never give ourselves an opportunity. Yeah. Thank you. So just go to an attorney and find out what your rights would be and what the finances would be. Just find out. Right. Information. Yeah. It doesn't obligate you, but it builds some muscle. Yeah. I appreciate that. Thank you.
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