I Drove My Husband Into Another Woman's Arms
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Hi, thank you, Dr. Laura, for taking my call. Thank you. My question, I have been married for 45 years. I recently learned my husband was unfaithful, has been unfaithful for what I believe was the last three years, and I had absolutely no idea. Neither of us want divorce. My question for you is how do I work towards divorce?

repairing things and I played a role in driving him to somebody else. What needs to be repaired? I don't understand. If you get a scrape on your knee, I know what to do. But when you say repaired, tell me what you mean. Our marriage. No, no, no, that's vague. You mean to go back to thinking about him the way you did before you found out? You can't go back to that. That's never coming back. Okay. Now, did he stop? Was this one person? A bunch of people?

One person for, I believe, about three years. He says it's over, but I found out it would not have ended if I had not found out. And he said he always told her he was never going to leave me. I think he likes our life and our

family, our kids are all grown out of the house and so forth. So, but we've just kind of grown apart. And I know I played a role in not being physically intimate enough with him. And, you know,

I take full responsibility for that. You mean you stopped having sex or affection? What did you stop doing? Yes, yes, yes, yes. Yes, what? Sex and affection? Yes. Why did you stop giving him affection? Why? I think just...

It just might be resentment on my part for different behaviors and finding another distraction. Oh, my God. Forty-five years of marriage, and you tittle around with, I'm resentful about these small things. Not that a man stayed with me through thick and thin for 45 years, but I picked and choose, cherry-picked these things to be resentful about. Does that make sense? I know. I knew you were going to resent me, and I deserve it. What is it you know? I don't understand why wives do this, take their men for granted.

And then get bent out of shape and say, trust and everything has to be repaired. Well, he trusted that you were going to love, honor, and cherish. And you stopped because you had pissy moments. Well, I guess if you're talking about repairing, then what you have to repair is go back to being his wife, his woman. You'll never forget that he found that elsewhere. You'll never forget that he found it elsewhere. It wasn't enough to dump you, but he just wanted a woman to be nice to him and loving and make him feel wanted.

and not pissy all the time about something. So he found a woman for three years to make him feel good so he didn't dump you. You know, if he didn't have that affair, he might have dumped you. Isn't that weird? It's possible. Because between now and dead, he didn't want to go without love and affection. So now are you going to be resentful for three years of an affair and not be affectionate? I mean, does this just go on?

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Well, that's not my plan. I've been trying to make that up. I know it's a long time to make up for, but I'm reaching out, being affectionate. I don't know that he'd trust me for my true intentions either. Not yet. No. Why should he? It's been a long time since you treated him like he was your man. Yes. Yes, it has. Yes, it has. Well, then you know what you need to do.

And you will never forget that he found solace in another woman's bosom. Okay. I saw that coming. Yeah, but you've got to put it in a place where you understand you might have lost him altogether if he hadn't. It's possible. There's just so much people can tolerate. And having your wife constantly pissy at you is kind of boring. Okay. And I'm sure he's a reasonably nice man, but he's not perfect. Go find one who is.

Right. Now, I'm lucky I've had him and I took him for granted and, you know, we weren't always busy at each other and we just sort of seemed to be, you know, friendly on a superficial level, I guess. But, yeah, you're right. And I sort of expected what you were going to respond in. Good. You're already on the right track. Mm-hmm.

Hopefully, hopefully. I want it to work. Between now and, as you say, between now and dead, what do we want? I want it to be great. You want him to feel like you're his woman. Mm-hmm. And he's your man. That's your job. Yeah. Yep. Good. Okay. Proud of you. I don't know why it took so long to get it. Because you didn't call me sooner. Now on Don't Hold Off Decades, okay? Okay. Okay.

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