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a little advice, probably a lot of advice. I feel like I'm sabotaging or screwing up my marriage. I'm married for 25 years, two kids. Their dad is the man I'm married to. And so having issues with controlling my husband,
with things like, so this has been going on probably from the get-go. I would control him with sex. I would control his behavior with just how money is spent, jobs or things like that. And
We have talked about it numerous times about how it shows disrespect to him. Those are things that I don't want to do, and over the years I have made some improvements with that. But I feel like just in general, I feel like it's a thought process I have inside of my head of, okay,
That says what to think about or how, what, what should I be thinking about? Ma'am, the thought process in your head says what to you? That when he requests me to do something or makes a decision for us, that there's a part of me that's resistant to it. I, I,
So, like I said, I didn't know. No, no, I don't want to hear what you said. Don't want to hear what you said because I heard it. So you're resisting and tell me the thought process that goes into the resistance. I feel that I'm I feel independent. I feel, you know, I feel I I recognize that I resist everything.
I guess being told what to do, even though logically I know my husband is not telling me what to do. I struggle with I struggle with that. I feel maybe he's controlling me, but then that's what I end up doing to him.
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Because you're not answering with the truth right now. You think you are, but you're not. The reason women behave or actually anybody behaves like you're behaving is because you're scared. In the 60s and 70s, there was some nonsensical stuff psych types would do. And some of it was interesting. Some of it was stupid. But one of the things that I always thought of, because I used to see a billboard with a picture that represented it,
You'd be in a room, a lot of people would be in the room, and you'd choose up couples, not to marry or anything, just people. And one person would stand, and the other person would stand behind them, and the person in front would have to put their arms out to the side, like they're flying, and fall backwards, and trust that they would be caught. And it was interesting to see the personality types who went right into just throwing themselves back,
and the ones who were very hesitant to trust that somebody would really take care of them. So where did you learn that ultimately it's a dangerous thing to trust? My parents. So tell me about that. So they fought a lot. My dad would leave a lot, and my mom was emotionally vacant. So you say the word trust, and I think that's exactly what I have an issue with.
That's right. Now, what's funny about you is that with that fear in your heart, you married a man you could trust. Yeah. What's the point of marrying a man you could trust if you don't take the next step, and that is fall back in his arms? It would be a big mistake for me to not do that. I've got to tell you how beautiful a feeling it's going to be
When you can imagine just falling back into his arms and letting him take care of you and that it's going to be all right. It's going to feel so good. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's an attitude that I needed to change because I can do the behaviors. It's the underlying attitude. Please don't go off. Don't go off on whatever. Stop talking. I just want you to close your eyes unless you're driving and picture what I...
What I described. Picture him standing behind you, your arms out, and being willing to fall back, hoping, assuming he will catch you or you're going to get hurt. I just want you to picture that. I do. So tell me, did you hesitate or did you just throw yourself back? No, I did not hesitate. Because you knew you had a man who would catch you. Right. This is not an attitude. You grew up in fear. This is not an attitude. Right.
You've been traumatized and you're scared, understandably. But again, it's ironic that as scared as you were, you picked a good man you could count on. So you did half of it. Picked the right man you could count on. Now you've got to fall back in his arms. Okay. And trust it and feel good when he catches you. All righty. I can do that. You're going to love it. Thank you. You're very welcome, Margaret.
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