I'm Worried About My Daughter's Choice in Boyfriend
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Valid for 20% off site-wide. Standard exclusions apply. Valid March 5th, 2025 through May 30th, 2025. Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Kelly, welcome to the program. Hi there. Thank you. Hi. What can I do for you?

Well, I listened to your show the other day and it resonated with me. You talked with another woman or mother of another daughter that a man truly takes, or I believe this is what you said, like if there's going to be a change, that the change takes 10 years and my daughter is 29 and why wait 10 years to see if the change is going to actually happen?

And I have a 29-year-old beautiful daughter, very well-educated, self-supporting, who went back with a jerk who had originally stolen money from her. We helped her get the money back. Doesn't have a car, but has a very gregarious personality and moved her back. And supposedly it's in counseling to help with his drinking.

We don't understand. We have a real rift in our relationship because we did a lot of tough love and had her pay her car back, cut her phone off, go get your own phone. We were subsidizing a little bit of the rent so she could live very nicely, took all that away. And of course, she won't blame him. I said, this is because of him. We're going to do nothing to subsidize you having a relationship with him if he's going to ding your phone.

get your own phone. Because she'd been on our phone forever and she had lived out of the country for over five years. So, you know, that was, you know, I don't want to think we were completely enabling, just, it was just a phone. We had all, it was a family phone. But anyway, we actually had a, she had a second job with us where we let her go from that instantly because he was helping her

cloak giving her ideas he was so important and I am trying to keep this relationship but it's very hard she won't talk she won't talk what she's doing or with him cannot explain the why and I'm not doing well it's my only child are you married yes I'm married to her dad no I am not to her dad okay how old was she when you divorced how long have I been divorced yes

I've been with my husband now for 15 years. I was divorced prior for 10 years. And how old was she when you divorced? Probably around eight or nine. And I had a soul custody. So she didn't have her dad anymore.

Not very much. Okay. Listen carefully. Listen carefully. Listen very carefully. When a woman is aching for her dad and doesn't want to be left, because kids are very damaged by a parent walking out on them, which is how they perceive it. This loser dude needs her. He'll never leave. He needs her, you said? Yes. Yes.

So he won't leave her. She doesn't even understand that that's why she's attracted to him. He won't leave her. She's secure with him. Hmm. Okay. Now, as I'm writing the notes down, I am listening, but that actually, it actually flipped because it did make, that actually does make sense. And they all run in the same circle of friends. And I think she's worried, wakes up with him again. There goes that circle of friends. Kelly, also mother is too involved.

That could be. No, that not could be. Mother is way too involved. You were feeding her money. I don't know if she lived overseas for a lot of years. She's feeding. Yeah. You just told me of all the money you were feeding her. Yes, we were. We were certainly helping her out. Yeah, you shouldn't have been. She had a very nice life. She was a grown woman with a job. Mm-hmm. So you made her feel like a baby, but with him, she feels like the mother. All these things come together.

To tell a 30-year-old woman you're going to take her phone away is pretty hilarious. So, yeah. That's pretty hilarious, woman. Well, we didn't really tell her that. We just shut it off to go get your own. It wasn't cool. That was actually my husband's night. You are controlling parents. You are controlling parents. You are controlling parents. And the first thing you did was blow up her family. She's got a guy who won't leave her.

And she's resentful because she's semi-spoiled. So no, it's not going to be made good anytime soon. It has nothing to do with 10 years and anybody changing. Except you. What do I do? Shut the hell up more often. We kind of figured why she keeps hanging out with him. She is going to stay with him. She is going to stay with him. He makes her feel safe. You're demanding and controlling. He makes her feel safe.

So if he does stupid things, she'll tolerate that because she doesn't believe for a moment that he will walk out on her. We're just very concerned if this turns into something more. You have a nice day now. I said we're very concerned. Yes. Get out of her life. That's part of this. Push, pull, push, pull, push, pull.

Come here, be with us. We're not going to be with you if you're with him. Come here, be with us. We're not going to be with you if you're with him. Push, pull, push, pull, push, pull. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars.

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