My Daughter Wants to Live on Her Own
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Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Elizabeth, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call. You're welcome. What can I do for you? So, my husband and I currently live in

Virginia, and we have a daughter who is attending community college here, and we're, or he is in the military, and we have new orders back down to Florida, where we're from, and I'm wanting my daughter to relocate with us, but she wants to stay up here and continue her college and

She eventually just went. I mean, she wants to live here, but I'm concerned. OK, before you go into the motherly, I'm concerned routine. All that. All that. I get that. I'm teen times in three hours, so I'm concerned. So what is she studying? Is she actually going to school with a purpose or is she going to school?

She's going with a purpose. She wants to get her major in early education and eventually possibly further that into like her master's degree where she wants to continue with an education. What does she want to actually do for a living with the degrees? Either be a, well, one of the things that she's in, she wants to be a pathologist, a

Or even go into where she would get a master's so she could be a librarian. In other words, your daughter is very young and has no clue as to what she wants to do. She knows she wants to work within education. Well, a pathologist is an M.D. Well, yes, but she wants to work in school. A pathologist is an M.D. She would have to go through four years of college, get accepted into college.

A medical school. Right. So what are you talking about?

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She has no idea yet, which is okay, but don't make it sound more dramatic than it is. She has no clue. How will she afford living when you leave? That's what I asked her. She says that she'll make it work. And I sat down and we did the math together and I said, you know, you're not making enough to stay here on your own with no family support. And what did she say? No, she shouldn't be getting family support. She's an adult now.

She wants to make these decisions. She has to take responsibility for them. So when you said you don't make enough money right now to afford living here, she said what? She actually stops the conversation there. Well, she's a very, she's not a mature person yet. However, I think you ought to back off and say, fine, I hope you make it work. Do not give her money. This is her opportunity to be an adult and make her way. Don't stand in the way of that.

Please. Okay. She's not your baby anymore, Mom. She's not your baby anymore. She's a woman now. She wants to stay there and go to school and have no idea, a master's in something, but she wants to be an MD. I mean, this is total chaos. But at her age, that's fine. At her age, I never thought I'd be sitting here doing what I'm doing. So it's fine.

But leave her alone to figure it out, please. I think it was good you sat down with her and said, let's look at the money. Now she knows what she needs to do. She has all summer. She can get another job, two jobs, 10 jobs. She can figure it out. Please let her figure it out. She'll be a stronger, better woman if you let her figure it out. All right.

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