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Learn more at chevy.com forward slash equinox. Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Izzy, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. It's an honor to speak with you. Thank you. What's happening?
Well, I am calling just with kind of a general question, I guess. I'm struggling with maybe feeling selfish for asking my husband to change jobs or to not pursue a dream job that takes him away from the family. How old are you? How old is he? How long have you been married?
I'm 27 and he's 32 and we've been married for seven years and we've got two kids, a five-year-old and an eight-month-old. And what is his daily schedule? So he spends 90 days or more sometimes out of the country and then he'll get to spend 30 days at home. Why did you marry somebody who has this kind of career in the first place?
Well, he did not have the career when we were married. So before you were married, what did he do for a living and what was his schedule then? When we were first married, he was a first responder. So he worked like 24 hours at a time and then he had 48 hours off. He was a firefighter. So was this in the fire department? Yes. Okay. And then...
When did he go international and how did that come about? And tell me of the discussions you two had about that. So he started, he kind of started like traveling for work around the COVID pandemic. He started traveling, helping out in New York when everything was pretty bad. And then it kind of just escalated from there. But this most recently after COVID,
We had our youngest baby. I was just kind of burnout. I'm a social worker, so I was a little burnout. And my husband's definitely the type to swim through shark-infested waters to bring me a lemonade. So, you know, he has...
solution for my burnout and not wanting to go back to work was to take this job that makes enough money for me to stay home. But he has to be away. So now I am struggling because I feel like I've asked him to provide. Question, question, question. Do you imagine that at your ages, married seven years with these two kids, that this is the only option anybody in the United States has had?
take care of mom at home? I think not. I'll answer that myself. It was rhetorical. And it's ridiculous to say, I'm going to be gone most of the year. So I won't be a husband. I won't be a father. I won't be there raising my kids. So you can stay home. No, I think he likes this. So you've got to sit down and have a true discussion with him and go, no, there are other options that I can stay home, where we live, how we budget,
There are other options, but not having a husband most of the time, not having a father for my children most of the time is a no. So I do not support this and it needs to stop. We need to find another alternative ASAP. And I don't care if it's his dream job, then he never should have gotten married and had kids. That is selfish. Not you. He's being selfish. That wasn't the only opportunity to keep you home. No. Yeah. Wrong. There are a lot of people...
where the mom is at home and they're not living like this. So I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to say, this is a no. I'm going to pack up and move in with my mother. I won't consider this a marriage. You're not here, but I'm here for 30 days. Really? Well, if I, when I was dating you only saw you 90 days, not 30 days. Yes. I never would have married you. So you're going to have to sit down and tell the truth and no, you're not selfish. He is.
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