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What's a Man to Do?

2025/4/12
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Lisa: 我和丈夫的婚姻出现问题,可以追溯到我生孩子后。为了成为好母亲,我忽略了丈夫,导致我们之间缺乏性生活。我发现丈夫在看色情影片,孩子们也看到过。我们为此大吵一架,他删除了一些色情内容,但并非全部。我患有慢性阻塞性肺疾病(COPD),这使得我们的性生活更加困难。我努力修复我们之间的信任,但不知道该如何处理这个困境。 我意识到自己忽略了丈夫,这让我非常难过。我读了你的书,这让我更加意识到这个问题的严重性。我们之间缺乏沟通,导致他寻求色情影片来满足自己的需求。我担心我们的婚姻会因此破裂,因为我无法满足他的需求,而且我的身体状况也限制了我的能力。我渴望修复我们的关系,但不知道该如何开始。 Dr. Laura: Lisa,多年来你拒绝和丈夫发生性关系,然后你指责他看色情影片?你应该想想,如果一个男人长期得不到满足,他会怎么做?去找妓女?离开你?找女朋友?还是看色情影片?男人也是有性需求的生物。你没有给他提供性满足,他只能自己解决。他并没有离开你,没有去找妓女或女朋友,只是通过色情影片来满足自己,你应该为此感到庆幸。你总是有各种各样的理由拒绝和他发生性关系,现在又说你患有COPD。虽然这很严重,但这只是你众多理由中的一个。他并没有抛弃你,而是继续和你结婚,这说明他仍然爱你。他只是通过看色情影片来满足自己的需求,你应该理解他。你应该反思自己的行为,并尝试与他进行有效的沟通,而不是一味地指责他。

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Well, I'll do my best to scrounge some up. How can I help? Well, my husband and I have been having some problems. It kind of went back to when I first had children and I didn't realize that I was trying to be

a better mother than I had, and I neglected my husband. Through reading your book, I have found that out. I just started reading it again, and I have been very weepy, and I don't know what to do with this dilemma. I caught my husband looking at porn and enjoying himself, and my children also walked in the house and caught him periodically. We

He has also liked different pictures and whatever. And I went through his phone and I said something to him about it. And we had a big blow up. And I said, you need to get rid of all these ladies. So he deleted some of them, but not all of them. When I looked at the phone again, I said something to him about it that I was going to be done if he didn't.

And so we, before then we were kind of like in a sexless marriage. I have gone to the doctor to find things to help. And anyway, we have gotten, well, he told me in the heat of anger, he said that he would put a roof over my head and that has stuck with me. And we're, I still, I'm working on my trust with him and,

Trying to overcome it. Well, I have some, I have COPD. And after reading your book, he did tell me before he said about the children. I have a question. Yes, ma'am. If you withdrew from being sexual with him for all those years after you were making kids, and then afterwards, what did you want him to do? Go to prostitutes? He was working out of town. Get a girlfriend? He was working out of town. Listen to me. No. Lisa? Lisa?

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I didn't even think about that being so important. Well, you ought to because it isn't all about you and how you're offended. Men tend to be more sexually invested than women are. Tend to be. Not 100%. They tell me men are visual. Tend to be. Okay. I don't know. You put a guy in a corner and what the hell do you want him to do? Get a prostitute? Leave you? Get a girlfriend? What do you want him to do? The man is a sexual being. Well, it's been...

So what do you want a husband to do if you're not going to have sex with him? I just don't know what you ladies want. Well, like I said, we were kind of over that. And now I have a medical problem with the COPD. I do sleep with oxygen at night. And I'm just afraid. Yeah, but you're available in the day, too. Okay, you know, you have one reason after another. This one is serious. I get that. But you have one reason after another. He didn't dump your ass. He stayed married to you.

He didn't go to a prostitute. He didn't get a girlfriend. He didn't divorce you. He just pleasures himself. Can't believe you're not more understanding. He does look up my girlfriend. I can't believe. Well, yeah, okay. All right. My number, 1-800. At times, I just have to throw my hands up. Sorry. 1-800, he looks at your friends. Well, it's hard not to. My number, 1-800-375-2872. But I just wonder, what do you women want?

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