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主持人：婚姻中既有展现真相的力量，也有爱的力量。真相的力量在于揭示真实的自我，爱的力量在于治愈创伤，建立彼此。但配偶的评价具有双刃剑效应，既能带来肯定，也能成为伤害的武器。在婚姻早期，我们很容易伤害到配偶，因为我们太了解他们的弱点。爱意味着允许对方伤害自己，因为你敞开了你的心。在堕落的世界中，真相和爱可能互相冲突。配偶能洞察我们的罪，这使得他们的评价具有更大的力量。配偶是唯一真正了解你的人，也是最容易被你伤害的人。当我们被配偶严重伤害时，我们会使用真相的力量来反击，但这种方式往往具有破坏性。我们有时会不经意地说出刻薄的话语，从而伤害到配偶。在婚姻中，我们需要学习如何恰当表达自己的想法，避免直接说出伤人的话。长期逃避问题会导致婚姻失去属灵成长的潜能，最终可能导致离婚。在婚姻中，需要学习如何表达自己的想法，并思考如何才能带来改变。长期逃避问题会导致婚姻失去属灵成长的潜能。在婚姻中，逃避冲突会导致双方都受到伤害。在婚姻中，要学习选择合适的时机沟通，避免在不合适的时机谈论重要的事情。在婚姻中，需要记录需要沟通的事情，以便在合适的时候沟通。婚姻中，夫妻的个性差异会影响沟通方式，需要学习如何有效沟通。婚姻中，夫妻的个性互补是常见的现象，这种互补可以带来平衡。婚姻中，夫妻的个性互补是常见的现象，需要找到平衡点。婚姻中，需要学习如何表达自己的想法，并找到合适的时机沟通。真诚的赞美比虚假的赞美更有力量。真诚的赞美比虚假的赞美更有力量。真诚的赞美比虚假的赞美更有力量。丈夫真诚的赞美能提升妻子的自信。丈夫真诚的赞美能提升妻子的自信。在婚姻中，需要将真相和爱结合在一起。在生气的时候，人们容易说出伤人的话，即使这些话是事实。在婚姻中，不能只讲真话而忽略爱，也不能只爱而不说真话。在教育孩子时，需要结合真相和爱。只有在基督里才能建立真正的尊严。圣经中也有斥责人的例子，这表明在罪中不悔改的人是没有尊严的。悔改的人在基督里拥有尊严。在婚姻中，需要将真相和爱结合在一起。长期不学习如何处理婚姻中的问题，会导致婚姻破裂。长期不学习如何处理婚姻中的问题，会导致婚姻破裂。婚姻中，一方的逃避会造成另一方更大的伤害。婚姻中，一方的逃避会造成另一方更大的伤害，这可能是导致离婚的原因之一。没有在基督里的饶恕、成长和悔改，婚姻很难维系。如果一方不愿意悔改，婚姻可能会走向离婚。人们容易抵制批评。人们容易找借口掩盖自己的错误。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。人们容易对批评感到抵触，因为他们缺乏安全感。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。男人更容易将批评理解为不爱和瞧不起。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。在提出批评之前，要做好铺垫，避免直接批评。在提出批评之前，要做好铺垫，避免直接批评。在提出批评时，要表达自己的感受和担忧。在提出批评之前，要先祷告，避免只是抱怨。在提出批评之前，要先祷告，避免只是抱怨。在提出批评时，要表达自己的需求，而不是简单的抱怨。在提出批评时，要表达自己的需求，而不是简单的抱怨。在提出批评之前，要先反省自己的心态，避免只是抱怨。家庭成员之间需要一个健康的表达情绪的出口。
Christine：在婚姻中，要学习如何恰当表达自己的想法，避免直接说出伤人的话。在婚姻中，要学习如何恰当表达自己的想法，并思考如何才能带来改变。长期逃避问题会导致婚姻失去属灵成长的潜能。长期逃避问题会导致婚姻失去属灵成长的潜能。在婚姻中，逃避冲突会导致双方都受到伤害。在婚姻中，要学习选择合适的时机沟通，避免在不合适的时机谈论重要的事情。在婚姻中，需要记录需要沟通的事情，以便在合适的时候沟通。
德川：婚姻中，夫妻的个性差异会影响沟通方式。婚姻中，夫妻的个性差异会影响沟通方式，需要学习如何有效沟通。婚姻中，夫妻的个性互补是常见的现象。婚姻中，夫妻的个性互补是常见的现象，这种互补可以带来平衡。婚姻中，夫妻的个性互补是常见的现象，需要找到平衡点。
多拉：在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。男人更容易将批评理解为不爱和瞧不起。在提出批评时，要强调自己仍然爱对方，尊重对方。在提出批评之前，要做好铺垫，避免直接批评。在提出批评之前，要做好铺垫，避免直接批评。
永宁姐：没有在基督里的饶恕、成长和悔改，婚姻很难维系。如果一方不愿意悔改，婚姻可能会走向离婚。
双文姐：当我们被配偶严重伤害时，我们会使用真相的力量来反击，但这种方式往往具有破坏性。
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So this is kind of the summary of this whole chapter, that it’s very difficult to be hypocritical in marriage.
No more makeup. This guy, the guy wears shorts and a T-shirt, doesn't wear a suit and tie, right?
He eats and burps and farts, right?
But he also has the power of love.
He said, "But now there's a warning."
In the early stages of marriage, you will realize how much you can hurt your spouse.
The shell is open. When you say "I love you," it means he can break up with you and hurt you, right?
In this fallen world, the power of truth and the power of love in marriage may be at odds.
He knows my sins because these sins are often directed at him.
The only one who holds your heart in his hands is the one who most longs for and needs his affirmation and praise, and who has been deeply hurt by your own sins more than anyone else on this earth.
So when we start to be most seriously hurt by our spouse, we use the power of truth.
Sometimes we just casually say some mean and insulting words, and then we see our spouse become full of holes.
"I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything."
We use the power of love but not the power of truth.
"What did I do? Am I that bad?"
I want to encourage him, you have to tell me, otherwise I will feel I am very good.
If I want to bring about change, how can I speak to bring about change?
Usually it's very unpleasant.
You have to choose the right time.
Sometimes I feel I am very right, and he will feel inexplicable.
Almost every marriage has a little bit of complementary feeling.
Let's think more, "If you put this down, there may be a problem."
Like he used to say, "I speak good Chinese," actually he doesn't understand.
"I don't think any woman is completely confident about her appearance and looks."
A husband's true praise from the heart.
When we are hurt, we will use the power of truth without love.
Then we use the power of truth without love.
What is a person's dignity? A person's dignity is the image of Christ in Christ.
He called the scribes foxes, Paul called people dogs, Peter also called people dogs and pigs, right?
When he criticizes me, I have the security, I won't feel that he doesn't love me anymore.
Another possibility is that you haven't learned this lesson for 20 years, you keep not learning, and for 20 years, it accumulates until finally, it produces this…
But is there a situation where I can use your situation as an example?
If one side is unwilling to repent in God's grace, unwilling to pray together…
If one party is really stubborn and unwilling to change, then there will really be a possibility of divorce.
I've been married for so long, I've found that when I talk about negative things, I've found that I need to say…
hearing criticism, whether it's from me or my husband, will be quite unacceptable, and they will feel that you don't like me, you see my weakness, very insecure.
Maybe our men's dignity is indeed one, that is, if you criticize me, it means you don't love me, if you criticize me, it means you look down on me, hurt my dignity, right?
before surgery, you have to use anesthesia.
I really love you, but I still have to say this.
I pray very clearly, "I need to talk about this,"
What do you want him to do, right?
But what are you going to do? What are you going to do? Are you going to repent?
This is not pure complaining.
I have a question
Why should I be angry? I why deserve to be angry? Am I worthy?
You know, children will also come to complain to you.
I am not here criticizing you
I forgive you
Why should I forgive him? Why should I forgive? He has hurt me so much over the years. Why should I forgive? Why should I be the one who loses out? Why should I forgive? I've lost too much. I'm done. I'm not losing anymore.
Deep Dive
This chapter explores the dual forces of truth and love in marriage. It highlights how marriage reveals one's true self and the capacity of love to heal past wounds. However, it warns of the potential for truth to become a weapon, causing deep wounds through criticism and the exposure of vulnerabilities.
- Marriage reveals true selves, stripping away pretenses.
- Love in marriage has the power to heal and redeem.
- Criticism in marriage can be deeply damaging, especially when targeting vulnerabilities.
- Love involves vulnerability to hurt.