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The importance of validation with therapist Caroline Fleck

2025/2/18
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Caroline Fleck: 作为一名治疗师,我认为在一段经历中,即使对方的想法不对,情绪也可能是真实的;即使对方的想法不对,行为也可能是合理的,而我需要做的就是找到其中有效的部分并加以肯定。验证沟通的是接受和归属感,不需要扭曲自己,只需展现真实的自我并被看见。人们非常渴望有人倾听,以至于坐在对面的人是谁几乎都不重要。了解别人真正发生了什么,通常会发现事情与你无关,这反而更容易交流。验证就是表明你在这里,你理解,并且你关心。验证等同于同情,甚至在某种意义上等同于爱。很多人不理解什么是验证,更不用说如何表达了。验证他人不是赞扬他们,不是给予他们认可,也不是同意他们。我最近重新思考了社交媒体,人类与动物的区别不在于他们渴望交往和参与,而在于他们需要被接受。 Adam Grant: 在困难时期,人们不想被告知要看到光明的一面,他们想知道你站在他们一边。即使你不能帮助他们感觉更好,你总是可以帮助他们被看到。支持他人的最好方式并不总是让他们振作起来,而是经常出现。

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Seeking acceptance is a natural part of the human experience — but do you know how to dish it out? Clinical psychologist Caroline Fleck believes that validating others is a key to building stronger relationships. She and Adam discuss strategies for recognizing another person’s feelings, the distinction between empathetic validation and exaggerated praise, and why sometimes saying less is more.

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