Deep Dive
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of choosing '穷得真实' over '富得虚伪'?
The speaker highlights that '穷得真实' (being genuinely poor) is more valuable than '富得虚伪' (being falsely rich) because, over time, the temptations of wealth, promotions, and workplace politics reveal the difficulty and integrity required to remain authentic. This is especially relevant in industries like advertising, where budget temptations can lead to unethical behavior.
What does the speaker mean by '不是你在为公司打工，而是公司在为你打工'?
The speaker suggests that individuals should view their relationship with their employer as a partnership rather than subservience. Over time, the sacrifices made for a company often result in personal health issues, and it's crucial to understand one's own goals and direction rather than blindly serving the company.
Why does the speaker advise maintaining '顿感' (resilience) in the workplace?
The speaker advises maintaining resilience ('顿感') because many workplace issues or conflicts may resolve themselves over time. Acting impulsively, such as quitting over minor dislikes, can lead to missed opportunities. Resilience allows for a more measured and strategic approach to challenges.
What is the significance of finding answers '往往在别处' (often elsewhere)?
The speaker reflects on their own experience of focusing solely on their job for nine years, only to realize that personal growth and opportunities often come from exploring unrelated interests, such as podcasting, writing, and learning new skills. This broader perspective can lead to unexpected recognition and success.
Why does the speaker argue that '怼' (confrontation) is important in the workplace?
The speaker believes that confrontation is essential for establishing one's stance and maintaining independent thinking in the workplace. Those who stand their ground often have better career prospects, as it demonstrates the ability to assert one's views and avoid being a passive participant.
What does the speaker mean by '金钱价值的终点就是情绪价值'?
The speaker argues that the ultimate goal of earning money is to achieve emotional satisfaction. While sacrificing emotional well-being for financial gain may seem necessary, the realization that money cannot buy happiness often comes too late. True fulfillment lies in balancing financial and emotional value.
Why does the speaker criticize '秀加班' (showing off overtime)?
The speaker criticizes showing off overtime because it often only serves to impress oneself rather than others. In the workplace, results matter more than the appearance of hard work. The speaker learned to prioritize efficiency and meaningful tasks over unnecessary overtime.
What does the speaker suggest about friendships formed in the workplace?
The speaker suggests that many workplace friendships are superficial and based on professional utility rather than genuine connection. True friendships are those that persist even after leaving a job, as they are not tied to one's position or power.
Why does the speaker believe that '天才不一定能成功，刻意练习的人概率更大'?
The speaker argues that success is more likely for those who practice deliberately rather than relying solely on natural talent. Many jobs require consistency and skill rather than innovation, and those who focus on honing their abilities through practice often achieve more than those who are merely 'gifted.'
What is the speaker's view on the unfairness of the world and success?
The speaker acknowledges that the world is inherently unfair, and success is not guaranteed even for highly capable individuals. Factors like luck, timing, and initial circumstances play significant roles in determining outcomes. Recognizing this reality can help individuals navigate their careers with greater resilience and perspective.
- 选择“穷的真实，富的虚伪”的意义
- 公司与员工是合作关系，要明确自身目标
- 同事不喜欢你，换个环境就好
- 保持独立思考比讨好所有人更重要
- 金钱价值的终点是情绪价值
Shownotes Transcript
🍉这是2024年年底，我送给自己年度的14句职场忠告
各位朋友好久不见，我是职业离想的威尔王，过去两周的时间不知是现实还是天气，我有些喘不上气，开始看中医，王大夫说我思虑过多、肝郁气滞。
于是我开始停下来、慢一些思考，这一年我的得与失，逃脱流量之后，我的职场内心独白。
这一期的14句话，希望有一句能和你有共鸣，也许它能帮你笃定曾经不确定的一些坚持。
🚄2024年威尔王的14句话
1.“穷的真实，富得虚伪。”这八个字，我希望你永远选择前者。
很多初入职场的朋友都会觉得这件事很简单、轻松，只有当你工作多年以后，面对着一次次站队、升职、财富的诱惑时才会明白，你才会明白前面四个字做到的含金量。
2.不是你在为公司打工，而是公司在为你打工。
这个想法初听很不切实际，但是当你工作再久点、久点的时候你会发现，那些很多你为公司拼的命换回来的可能只有一身病。每个人都是自己的一人公司，我们与打工的公司只是合作关系，你要明白你为什么来，你要去往何处。
3.同事不喜欢你也许不是你的错，总有喜欢你的同事。
很多内耗的朋友都会把被孤立归结为自己的不对，但是这世界上本来就不是所有人都喜欢你，MBTI只有16个，所以总会有1/16的人和你一样，换个环境就好了。
4.做什么事都要保持顿感，白话就是：让子弹飞一会。
我年轻的时候遇到不喜欢的人、辞职，遇到不喜欢的事、辞职，遇到不喜欢的压力、辞职。后来我的大领导告诉我：你什么都很好，就是要学会保持顿感。当时我没悟，又遇到了一次不喜欢的人辞职，现在回头看，再忍那么一个月，那个人就没了。所以大智若愚是有道理的。
5.你在寻找的答案，往往在别处。
工作前9年，我的工作只关于我在的公司，我以为把主业做好什么都会好，直到2023年那次意外离职。后来半GAP的一年里，我做播客、写书、学咖啡，做了一堆和广告行业没那么相关的事。一年后我获得了很多前辈的喜欢与职位的青睐。他们从我的文字与声音里认可了我的价值。
那一刻，我恍然大悟，我的答案为什么一定要在工作里。
6.同事领导惹你不开心了，就该怼。
我在过去十年算是下意识做过对照组，那些职场里直言不讳的人与忍气吞声的人，从我的朋友里看，反而直言不讳的人拥有未来更好的前途。因为不怼就说明你不会坚持自己的观点，而怼可能会被开除，但你的职场人设便就是坚持观点。
而混迹职场，除了人脉，最重要的不就是独立思考吗。
7.情绪价值和金钱价值比一文不值？NO，金钱价值的终点就是情绪价值。
可能这句话你现在觉得扯淡，但是牺牲情绪价值赚钱后的某一天，你可能会恍然大悟：原来金钱不能买来所有的开心啊。
8.天才不一定能成功，刻意练习的人概率更大。
其实一多半、甚至更多的工作并不需要创新、需要的是熟练，很多天才眼高手低，但是愚笨的人可以靠刻意练习取得成功。
9.秀加班这件事，很蠢。
别骂我，这句话我是骂年轻的自己的。年轻时候，我经常加班到半夜一两点，我以为我的领导会被感动，后来当我开始带部门的时候，我发现职场没那么多人关注你，很多人只关注结果。秀加班感动的是自己。后来的我能按时加班绝不多待一秒，因为还有其他事要去干。
10.在职时候交的不一定是朋友，离职以后还联系的可能才有用。
举个好玩的例子，在我还负责NBA营销的那两年，每天早上但凡有比赛，得有十几个人和我没事聊球，就是纯聊，但是后来我离开的岗位，大家都瞬间不聊了。
在职时，很多人交的不是你这个人，是你背后的权力，而那些在你离职后还能说话的人，可能才值得你深交。
11.人内耗的最大原因是：对过去的过分自责与对未来的过分担忧。
这句话不是我说的，是小象馆创始人小洁和我的一期播客说的。当你不懊悔汇报不好时、当你不研究怎么升职加薪时，也许更关注当下的你能获得更更高的能力。
12.即使再忙，你也能一周看完一本书。
多少人以工作忙，工作后放弃了读书，曾经我也是，后来我发现，每天吃饭、通勤、睡前的时间整合在一起，三四天看一本书是没问题的。
13.这世界就是不公平的，能力强的人也不一定就会成功。
这句话很伤人，但它就是事实，提前深刻认知到这件事，你会过得好一些。
14.这世界上只有一种成功：用自己的方式度过自己的一生。
这句当年明月老师说烂的话，希望在今年能内化成为你我的道理。
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