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Redux: Sex & Aging

2025/3/15
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Cheryl Strayed: 我们收到了许多50岁以上老年人关于性的来信,这表明性问题在各个年龄段都存在。我们的文化往往忽略老年人的性生活,这导致了误解和困惑。 Steve Allman: 来信者'Frustrated'描述了她与男友之间存在的性生活不和谐问题,她对性不再感兴趣,而男友却渴望性生活,这让她感到沮丧。这更像是一个爱情问题,而不是性问题,因为她更愿意和男友保持朋友关系,而不是恋人关系。 Frustrated: 我68岁,和72岁的男友性生活不和谐,我对性不再有兴趣,而他需要伟哥才能进行性行为,这让我感到沮丧。我男友很好,但我对他没有性吸引力了。我们谈论过这个问题,我建议他找一个更合适的伴侣,但他没有这样做。 Gordian: 我和妻子性生活停滞,她患有绝经后萎缩性阴道炎,这影响了她的性欲,而我仍然渴望性生活,这让我们感到沮丧和困惑。我们尝试过其他方式,但都不能替代性交带来的亲密感。我们考虑过激素治疗,但我担心这会对她的身体造成伤害。我们也讨论过我找一个情人,但这风险太大。 Pepper Schwartz: 老年人的性欲减退可能是多种因素造成的,包括生理因素(如更年期、阴道萎缩)和心理因素(如身体形象、对衰老的恐惧)。绝经后萎缩性阴道炎可以使用局部雌激素或更年期激素替代疗法来改善。衰老并不意味着性欲的终结,人们应该积极寻求方法来保持性生活,包括寻求专业帮助。在单一伴侣关系中,伴侣双方都应该努力满足彼此的性需求,性生活也不例外。

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The hosts discuss the cultural invisibility of the erotic lives of older adults and introduce the theme of the episode, inspired by letters from their older audience. They explore the stigma and lack of representation of aging sexuality in media and literature.
  • Older adults often feel invisible in discussions about erotic lives.
  • Media and literature rarely depict the sexual lives of those over 50.
  • Cultural stereotypes can lead to confusion and misinformation on aging and sexuality.

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This episode was originally released on May 25th, 2018.

When two women in their sixties start losing interest in sex, their sex-starved partners become increasingly frustrated. Both women blame old age for their waning libidos. But is their diminished sex drive because of age or something else?

The erotic lives of senior citizens are typically made invisible by our culture, which can lead to confusion and misinformation. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the love and relationship columnist for AARP, joins the Sugars to dispel certain myths about sex and aging: Do libidos change after menopause? How does the aging body affect the way we feel about sex? Should medical interventions be considered for a declining sex drive?

Dr. Schwartz is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington and has written more than 25 books on love and sexuality. She’s also an on-air expert for Lifetime TV’s “Married at First Sight.”

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“Our Souls at Night,” by Kent Haruf

“Scary Old Sex,” by Arlene Heyman