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World Expert On Why Perfectionism Is Your Enemy And How To Overcome It - Professor Thomas Curran

2023/6/29
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Ali Abdaal: 本期节目讨论了完美主义的负面影响,以及如何克服完美主义。完美主义者通常有强烈的冒名顶替者现象,他们总是努力证明自己足够好。 Thomas Curran: 完美主义是一种世界观,它源于一种缺陷感,而非积极的追求完美。完美主义的根源被误解了,它不仅仅是个人性格特征,也受到文化因素的影响。消费文化、社交媒体、学校、大学和职场都放大了完美主义。 完美主义有害,因为它源于缺陷感,导致恶性循环。健康努力和不健康完美主义的区别在于其根本原因。健康努力源于积极乐观的态度,而完美主义则源于一种缺陷感。完美主义与神经质和尽责性高度相关,在不同文化中的表现形式也不同。 完美主义大约30%到40%是遗传因素决定的,但环境因素也起着重要作用。负面的童年经历与日后的完美主义倾向有关。作者的祖父体现了健康的努力而非完美主义。作者本人也具有完美主义倾向,并分享了克服完美主义的方法,包括接纳生活的不确定性,以及自我同情、挑战完美主义、接纳失败等。 完美主义的多维度模型包括自我导向型、社会规定型和他人导向型三种类型。完美主义并不一定带来更高的生产力,完美主义者往往是世界级的自我破坏者。克服完美主义的关键在于自我接纳,具体方法包括:自我同情、挑战完美主义、接纳失败。 不要让外在的物质或地位定义你的自我价值。社交媒体既有益处也有弊端,关键在于如何正确使用。作者对“成长型思维模式”持批判态度,认为其可能导致过度追求成长而忽略自我接纳。目标应该是方向而非终点,不应过度追求具体和具有挑战性的目标。 Thomas Curran: 完美主义是一种世界观,它源于一种缺陷感,而非积极的追求完美。完美主义的根源被误解了,它不仅仅是个人性格特征,也受到文化因素的影响。消费文化、社交媒体、学校、大学和职场都放大了完美主义。 完美主义有害,因为它源于缺陷感,导致恶性循环。健康努力和不健康完美主义的区别在于其根本原因。健康努力源于积极乐观的态度,而完美主义则源于一种缺陷感。完美主义与神经质和尽责性高度相关,在不同文化中的表现形式也不同。 完美主义大约30%到40%是遗传因素决定的,但环境因素也起着重要作用。负面的童年经历与日后的完美主义倾向有关。作者的祖父体现了健康的努力而非完美主义。作者本人也具有完美主义倾向,并分享了克服完美主义的方法,包括接纳生活的不确定性,以及自我同情、挑战完美主义、接纳失败等。 完美主义的多维度模型包括自我导向型、社会规定型和他人导向型三种类型。完美主义并不一定带来更高的生产力,完美主义者往往是世界级的自我破坏者。克服完美主义的关键在于自我接纳,具体方法包括:自我同情、挑战完美主义、接纳失败。 不要让外在的物质或地位定义你的自我价值。社交媒体既有益处也有弊端,关键在于如何正确使用。作者对“成长型思维模式”持批判态度,认为其可能导致过度追求成长而忽略自我接纳。目标应该是方向而非终点,不应过度追求具体和具有挑战性的目标。

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Most of us know perfectionism as the relentless pursuit of flawlessness, our fatal flaw of having a constant need to meet impossibly high standards. It's a trait that many of us strive for, believing that it will lead to success and happiness. But what if I told you that this concept of perfectionism as we know it isn’t the full picture? And the badge of honour we think perfectionists wear is one big misconception. Today I’m joined by Professor Thomas Curran, an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioural Science at the London School of Economics. With over a decade of experience, Professor Curran is a world leading expert on perfectionism. He has written for the Harvard Business Review, New Scientist, The Guardian, Telegraph and Wall Street Journal. In 2018, he gave a TEDMED talk which has over 3 million views and earlier this month he published his book The Perfection Trap: The Power of Good Enough in a world that always wants more’. In the conversation we talk about the paradoxical effects of perfectionism, how our perfectionistic traits stem from a cultural obsession rather than a personal flaw and shows what we can do as individuals to resist the modern-day pressure to be perfect - and how we can create a culture that celebrates the joys of imperfection.

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