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#194 Why the Kids Aren’t Alright with Abigail Shrier

2024/5/21
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Abigail Shrier: 我认为我们现在面临的困境源于许多不良的治疗方式,这些方式非但没有帮助孩子解决问题,反而加重了他们的症状,甚至带来了新的问题。我们过度关注孩子的情绪,将他们的感受置于首位,这使得他们难以应对生活中的挫折和挑战。我们应该教会孩子如何管理情绪,而不是一味地关注他们的感受。同时,父母应该在家庭中扮演权威的角色,为孩子树立榜样,引导他们成长。我们应该让孩子明白,生活并非一帆风顺,他们需要学会克服困难,培养自身的韧性和抗逆力。 我们不应该将普通行为病理化,给孩子贴上各种标签。这会让他们觉得自己有缺陷,丧失对自身的信心和掌控力。我们应该鼓励孩子积极面对生活中的挑战,培养他们的自主性和责任感。 学校的社会情感学习项目,本意是帮助孩子进行情绪调节,但实际上却适得其反。这些项目过度关注孩子的情绪,让他们沉溺于负面情绪中,无法摆脱。 父母应该积极参与孩子的治疗过程,与治疗师保持沟通,确保治疗的有效性和目标性。同时,父母也应该反思自身的养育方式,避免过度干预孩子的生活。 Shane Parish: 作为一名家长,我非常关注孩子的心理健康。在与Abigail Shrier的对话中,我了解到许多关于儿童心理健康问题的观点,这些观点让我对当前的心理健康文化有了新的认识。我意识到,我们应该更加重视培养孩子的韧性和抗逆力,而不是一味地关注他们的负面情绪。 我们应该鼓励孩子积极面对生活中的挑战,培养他们的自主性和责任感。同时,我们也应该反思自身的养育方式,避免过度干预孩子的生活。 在与Abigail Shrier的对话中,我了解到,学校在儿童心理健康方面也存在一些问题。学校过度关注孩子的情绪,反而加剧了孩子的情绪失调。学校应该更加重视培养孩子的韧性和抗逆力,而不是一味地关注他们的负面情绪。 此外,我还了解到,社交媒体也对儿童的心理健康造成了负面影响。社交媒体传播负面信息,加剧了孩子的情绪失调。我们应该引导孩子正确使用社交媒体,避免沉溺其中。

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Investigative journalist Abigail Shrier reveals an uncomfortable truth: our culture's overwhelming embrace of therapy might be harming the next generation. In this thought-provoking conversation, she challenges conventional wisdom about mental health, drawing from extensive research and disturbing patterns among lifelong therapy patients.

Learn when therapy helps, when it hurts, and how successful parents navigate emotional resilience in their children.

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(00:00) Intro

(05:44) Inverse: How do we raise mentally unstable kids?

(08:29) How we got to now

(11:45) Bad therapy...or just social trends?

(13:21) Being your kids' friend: good or bad?

(15:55) The parenting type that raises the BEST kids

(21:35) Is this all the parents' fault?

(29:53) Is "Bad Therapy" a world-wide problem?

(32:57) Talk to your kids' therapist about these things

(42:09) The importance of facing adversity in childhood

(47:06) Can we blame grad schools for all of this?

(49:14) On technology and social media

(51:03) Schools should "never" have gotten involved in mental health

(54:43) Did COVID accelerate "bad therapy?"

(56:07) How to return to normalcy

(58:21) Why Shane shares negative YouTube comments with his kids

(01:01:23) Shrier's experience being "cancelled"

(01:04:13) On prestige media

(01:07:47) Small steps parents can take to return to normal

(01:11:02) Dealing with schools saying one thing and parents saying another

(01:13:32) Why is the silent majority...silent?

(01:16:32) If this continues, what happens?

(01:18:19) What makes someone a successful parent?

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