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How to forget about finding “The One”— and build a lasting relationship (with Dr. George Blair West)

2021/6/21
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Chris Duffy：选择伴侣是人生中最重要的决定之一，离婚的压力巨大。 George Blair West：选择人生伴侣是人生中最重要的决定，需要理性与感性兼顾。找到合适的伴侣并非寻找唯一的真命天子，而是选择与你携手共建美好未来的伴侣。成功的长期关系建立在承诺、信任和脆弱性之上，从而建立亲密关系。长久关系的建立需要接纳伴侣的缺点，并支持彼此的成长。害怕脆弱是导致关系失败的主要原因之一。长久婚姻是不断变化和成长的过程，需要适应彼此的变化。健康的伴侣关系需要双方共同成长，并在对方需要时给予支持。在关系出现问题时，坦诚沟通能够增进理解，并激发双方共同解决问题的意愿。婚姻成功的关键在于伴侣间的可靠性，以及在面临困境时相互支持。婚姻失败往往源于婚前问题，伴侣间的相互影响力至关重要。定期进行“抱怨时间”或“检视”可以有效地处理夫妻间的矛盾，避免问题累积。即使只有一方努力，也能改善关系，关键在于成为更好的伴侣。并非所有关系都值得挽救，在不健康或危险的关系中，及时退出更为重要。 Chris Duffy: 选择伴侣是人生中最重要的决定之一，离婚的压力巨大。 George Blair West: 选择人生伴侣是人生中最重要的决定，需要理性与感性兼顾。找到合适的伴侣并非寻找唯一的真命天子，而是选择与你携手共建美好未来的伴侣。成功的长期关系建立在承诺、信任和脆弱性之上，从而建立亲密关系。长久关系的建立需要接纳伴侣的缺点，并支持彼此的成长。害怕脆弱是导致关系失败的主要原因之一。长久婚姻是不断变化和成长的过程，需要适应彼此的变化。健康的伴侣关系需要双方共同成长，并在对方需要时给予支持。在关系出现问题时，坦诚沟通能够增进理解，并激发双方共同解决问题的意愿。婚姻成功的关键在于伴侣间的可靠性，以及在面临困境时相互支持。婚姻失败往往源于婚前问题，伴侣间的相互影响力至关重要。定期进行“抱怨时间”或“检视”可以有效地处理夫妻间的矛盾，避免问题累积。即使只有一方努力，也能改善关系，关键在于成为更好的伴侣。并非所有关系都值得挽救，在不健康或危险的关系中，及时退出更为重要。

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The episode explores the critical decision of choosing a life partner and the importance of an informed, thoughtful approach to ensure a lasting relationship.

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If you choose to be in a relationship —long or short term— how do you go about picking the right person to spend your time with? And once you are in that relationship, how can you be a good partner? Can you avoid it ending badly? George Blair-West is a relationship expert, researcher, and doctor specializing in psychiatry with a private practice in Brisbane, Australia. He co-authored the book "How to make the biggest decision of your life: Unlocking the secrets to a healthy lasting relationship” (Hachette Australia, 2021) with his daughter, a millennial dating coach. Today, he shares what he’s learned in his 25 years as a relationship therapist, debunks myths about love (is there such a thing as “The One”?), and suggests practices that can help build long-lasting relationships. In 2021, George and his wife celebrated 33 years of marriage.