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Why did the speaker feel emotionally vulnerable when she started her first relationship?
The speaker felt emotionally vulnerable when she started her first relationship because her parents were going through a divorce at the time, which left her in a fragile emotional state.
What was the speaker's first boyfriend's father's attitude towards their relationship?
The speaker's first boyfriend's father, a high-ranking academic, disapproved of their relationship, insisting that his son should not date during college as he was destined to study abroad and the relationship would eventually end.
How did the speaker's first boyfriend's behavior change after they started dating?
After they started dating, the speaker's first boyfriend stopped playing video games for an hour each night and instead spent that time talking to her on the phone, showing a shift in his priorities.
What was a significant issue in the speaker's first relationship?
A significant issue in the speaker's first relationship was that her boyfriend constantly set higher expectations for her, which made her feel like she could never meet his standards, leading to feelings of inadequacy.
What incident during their last date in Beijing contributed to the speaker's decision to break up with her first boyfriend?
During their last date in Beijing, the speaker's boyfriend ate all the sushi without leaving any for her, which made her feel disrespected and contributed to her decision to break up with him.
Why did the speaker feel conflicted about her first boyfriend's expectations for their future?
The speaker felt conflicted because her first boyfriend expected her to move to the U.S. to take care of him and her mother, but she was unwilling to abandon her own life and career in China.
What event led the speaker to question the significance of her first boyfriend in her life?
The speaker questioned the significance of her first boyfriend after a doctor mistakenly referred to another man who accompanied her to the hospital as her husband, prompting her to reflect on her relationship.
How did the speaker's first boyfriend react when she broke up with him?
When the speaker broke up with him, her first boyfriend initially cried and resisted the breakup but eventually agreed to it after further discussion.
What realization did the speaker have about her relationship with the wealthy man she met in Shanghai?
The speaker realized that her relationship with the wealthy man in Shanghai was more about her curiosity about his lifestyle and wealth rather than genuine affection, leading her to question her motivations.
What lesson did the speaker learn from her experiences with wealthy men?
The speaker learned that wealth and status can easily cloud judgment in relationships, and she ultimately prioritized finding a partner who shared her values over material wealth.
- 网恋开始，异地恋维持数年
- 男友不断提高要求，让女生感到压力
- 情感需求缺失，缺乏陪伴和关心
- 细节描写展现男友自私和缺乏同理心
- 分手后，女生反思这段感情的得失
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