The speaker felt emotionally vulnerable when she started her first relationship because her parents were going through a divorce at the time, which left her in a fragile emotional state.
The speaker's first boyfriend's father, a high-ranking academic, disapproved of their relationship, insisting that his son should not date during college as he was destined to study abroad and the relationship would eventually end.
After they started dating, the speaker's first boyfriend stopped playing video games for an hour each night and instead spent that time talking to her on the phone, showing a shift in his priorities.
A significant issue in the speaker's first relationship was that her boyfriend constantly set higher expectations for her, which made her feel like she could never meet his standards, leading to feelings of inadequacy.
During their last date in Beijing, the speaker's boyfriend ate all the sushi without leaving any for her, which made her feel disrespected and contributed to her decision to break up with him.
The speaker felt conflicted because her first boyfriend expected her to move to the U.S. to take care of him and her mother, but she was unwilling to abandon her own life and career in China.
The speaker questioned the significance of her first boyfriend after a doctor mistakenly referred to another man who accompanied her to the hospital as her husband, prompting her to reflect on her relationship.
When the speaker broke up with him, her first boyfriend initially cried and resisted the breakup but eventually agreed to it after further discussion.
The speaker realized that her relationship with the wealthy man in Shanghai was more about her curiosity about his lifestyle and wealth rather than genuine affection, leading her to question her motivations.
The speaker learned that wealth and status can easily cloud judgment in relationships, and she ultimately prioritized finding a partner who shared her values over material wealth.
嘉宾:余晓 Michelle
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这是她录的第二期,非常好。第一期是《考教师受挫、入职四大、陪伴母亲、爸爸的人生下半场》。
12:40 他甚至说,以后任何时候你如果需要,我都可以帮助你
33:00 我就把那个段子当真了,我就对他说,你到底对我怎么样?
57:00 有些话题,内心我是不想接受的,当在当时我把应酬看成我工作的一项内容
81:00 我在日记当中详细地说了这件事情,结果……
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我从一起录播客的嘉宾朋友们身上看到了很多闪光的品质,这是俗世生活的极大安慰。
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