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Dr. Sunita Sah on How To Say ‘No’

2025/1/23
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Sunita Sah: 我从小就是一个非常听话的孩子,总是顺从父母、老师和社会的期望。但是,随着年龄的增长,我开始意识到一味顺从的代价,以及说不的重要性。我的新书《Defy: The Power of No In A World That Demands Yes》探讨了顺从的压力以及如何将说不视为表达自身价值观的方式。在书中,我分享了自己从一个听话的孩子到学会在必要时说不的旅程。我研究了暗示焦虑,这是一种独特的焦虑,它会让人们担心说不会被误解为对对方的不信任或质疑其人品。我还探讨了社会中存在的反抗等级,以及不同群体在说不时面临的不同后果。最后,我提出了反抗的新定义,即在面临压力时,根据自身价值观采取行动。这是一种积极的力量,可以帮助我们建立更美好的社会。 Mina Kim: 作为主持人,我与Sunita Sah博士就说不的困难进行了深入探讨。我们讨论了顺从的社会压力,以及在医疗保健、航空等领域中,由于害怕说不而导致的严重后果。我们还探讨了顺从与同意的区别,以及如何将说不重新定义为表达自身价值观的方式。节目中,听众分享了他们说不的经历和感受,以及他们如何克服说不的困难。 Alan: 作为一名慢性病患者,我分享了在身体不适时说不的经历,以及由此产生的负罪感。这提醒我们,为了保护自身健康,说不至关重要。 Ronnie: 作为一名拥有25年经验的护士,我分享了在高压环境下说不的经验。我强调了在说不之前,需要暂停思考,从自我尊重的角度出发,理解事情的本质,并选择合适的时机和方式。 Daniel: 我提到,在当今社会,人们对说“不”的敏感度有所提高,这使得人们在说不之前,需要考虑可能会产生的负面后果,例如被取消关注或排斥。 listeners: 听众们分享了他们在不同情境下说不的经历和感受,以及他们所面临的挑战和克服困难的方法。这些分享丰富了节目的内容,也为其他听众提供了参考和启示。

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The episode begins by discussing the common struggle of saying no, highlighting the unequal consequences for different individuals and the societal impact of always saying yes. It introduces Dr. Sunita Sah and her book, "Defy," which challenges the notion that saying no is inherently negative.
  • Unequal consequences of saying no
  • Societal impact of always saying yes
  • Introduction of Dr. Sunita Sah and her book, "Defy"

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Whether it’s declining an invitation, disagreeing with a boss or questioning a doctor, why is it so hard for us to say “no?” In her new book, Cornell organizational psychologist Dr. Sunita Sah draws on behavioral science to look at the pressure we feel to comply and explains why acts of defiance should be seen as expressions of our values. Sah’s new book is “Defy: The Power of No In A World That Demands Yes.” When do you struggle to say no?

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**Dr. Sunita Sah, **author, physician-turned-organizational psychologist, Cornell University; Her new book is ‘Defy: The Power of No In A World That Demands Yes’.