Jiaqi chose Lugu Lake primarily to rest and recharge after three years of intense podcasting, where her output exceeded her input. She felt a need to step away from the routine of her life in Beijing and explore a different way of living.
Jiaqi faced several psychological barriers, including the shame associated with not working, especially as a woman. She also struggled with the fear of financial instability and the societal stigma of taking a break from her career, which is often viewed negatively in professional settings.
In Mosuo society, the family lineage and inheritance are traced through the mother's side, and children belong to the mother's family. Men visit women at night in a practice known as 'walking marriage,' but the children are raised by the mother's family, and the father has no formal role in the child's upbringing.
Jiaqi faced challenges such as language barriers, cultural differences, and the need to rebuild her social support system from scratch. She also experienced loneliness and had to navigate her way into the community, which required patience and understanding of local customs.
Jiaqi handled instances of sexual harassment by setting clear boundaries. With locals, she addressed the issue directly in the presence of others to ensure her safety and to make her stance known. For non-locals, she simply blocked them to avoid further interaction.
During her gap year, Jiaqi gained a deeper understanding of her own preferences and passions, realizing she is more drawn to artistic and creative pursuits rather than commercial or financial endeavors. She also became more comfortable with her limitations and learned to accept her vulnerabilities.
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自由人团队解散之后,每个人都有了新的生活,而我们身边的很多人在这一年中也都陆续离职或在做着非全日制的工作。不上班真的很快乐,但Gap之后也有各不相同的痛苦、焦虑和迷茫。加七在今年四月去了泸沽湖,之后又来到摩梭人母系氏族的村落,在这大半年的时间里,她对生活有了更多思考和认知,那个带着赤诚和炙热曾想要改变世界的女孩,如今更臣服于生命,但她依然在用她的方式改变着些什么...
| 本期飞行主播 |
加七宋:正在摩梭母系家庭探索的自由人
小红书:加七宋
| 内容导览 |
00:02:47 加七为什么会选择去泸沽湖Gap
00:08:23 Gap之后的现实以及心理障碍
00:13:31 被性骚扰的经历以及怎样处理
00:17:20 Gap之后的两次心理重建
00:18:19 母系氏族下的生活与父权制的不同
00:21:31 女性对于Gap的耻感
00:30:29 加七母亲付姐目前的生活和变化
00:33:34 母女关系与课题分离
00:37:16 要面对真实的自己,要对自己诚实
00:43:07 重新思考什么是真正的被看到
00:45:30 是否远离都市的Gap生活有很大不同
00:50:25 过去我们是否过分强调边界感了
00:56:21 在泸沽湖实现真正的we work
00:59:10 Gap后的孤独与迷茫
01:05:50 有些东西被永远地剥夺了
01:10:59 生命需要确定和仪式
01:14:08 附近性的实践
01:16:59 《好东西》的鼓舞和启发
01:21:36 记录历史的重要性
01:23:54 给要Gap的朋友一点小建议
| 本期提及书影音|
书籍:《脏活》
电影:《好东西》
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片头曲:李星宇作品,感谢支持
片尾曲:快乐-坏特
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