Personal power is the belief in one's own capability to create impact, rooted in internal values rather than formal hierarchies or status. Unlike formal power, which is tied to one's position in an organization, personal power is about radiating qualities like control, agency, and action, which naturally command respect and influence.
The three foundations of personal power are a sense of control, an internal orientation (responding to inner signals rather than external ones), and a focus on action. These qualities are often exhibited by courageous individuals, such as whistleblowers, and are key to cultivating personal power.
Affirming personal values focuses individuals internally on what’s important to them, fostering a sense of agency and reframing their perspective to a bigger picture. Research shows that affirming values before high-stakes situations, like job interviews, can significantly increase the likelihood of success by making individuals appear more powerful and effective.
Giving is crucial for building trust, credibility, and competence, which are essential for personal power. However, it must be balanced with self-assertion to avoid becoming a workhorse. Assertiveness, especially in advocating for fairness, is perceived as a sign of personal power and can lead to greater respect and influence.
In high-stakes meetings, individuals can exhibit personal power by moderating the flow of conversation, synthesizing ideas, and guiding the discussion. This approach shows curiosity, empowers others, and positions the individual as a valuable contributor, even if they are not the expert in the room.
Taking responsibility for mistakes or situations communicates a sense of control and capability, which enhances personal power. Research shows that individuals who take responsibility are perceived as more trustworthy, likable, and respected, whereas blaming others signals a lack of control and diminishes power.
Managers can help employees develop personal power by giving them autonomy, sharing goals without micromanaging, and holding them accountable. Additionally, managers should redirect others to the employee for answers, reinforcing the employee’s authority and breaking the illusion of powerlessness.
The spotlight principle suggests that the person controlling the spotlight in a room holds the most power, not necessarily the person in the spotlight. In meetings or conversations, moderating the flow of discussion and guiding the conversation demonstrates control and enhances personal power.
We all know the stereotypes of leaders who use charisma, manipulation, domineering behavior, or their status in the hierarchy to exert control. But there is another type of leader whose power isn’t necessarily related to their position on the org chart. Chris Lipp has spent years studying people who’ve developed this “personal power” that is rooted in their internal values. Lipp is a professor at Tulane University’s Freeman School of Business, an executive coach, and the author of the new book The Science of Personal Power. He’s investigated where this second type of power comes from, how it can enhance our lives, and how to tap into it using some simple strategies and tools.