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Managing Up, One Conversation at a Time

2025/6/2

Women at Work

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Amy B.

Amy Gallo

通过播客和媒体贡献，帮助女性应对工作场所中的心理健康挑战。

Melody Wilding

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Amy Gallo: 管理向上是与老板建立互利关系，需要不断磨练技巧。重要的是理解老板的优先事项，调整沟通方式，并平衡彼此的需求。我认为Melody Wilding的书将与老板的关系分为10个对话，首先是关于目标一致和风格的对话，这为我们提供了一个很好的框架。 Melody Wilding: 目标一致的对话旨在明确期望，与老板就成功标准达成共识。而风格对话则关注如何协同工作，考虑到彼此的个性和偏好。我认为在目标一致性对话中，应该提出自己的看法并询问反馈，特别是对于职位较高的人。向上同理心也很重要，尝试理解老板的动机，并假设他们是善意的。 Amy B.: 我认为目标一致性对话不是一次性的，而是一系列的对话。重要的是，对话应该是双向的，包括分享计划、提出问题和压力测试。在提出问题时，要尊重并假设对方是善意的，例如说“帮我理解”。

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This chapter explores the importance of the alignment conversation in building a productive relationship with your boss. It provides practical tips on how to initiate this conversation, including sample language and questions to ask, and addresses scenarios where misalignment exists. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding your boss's priorities and motivations.

The alignment conversation is crucial for creating clear expectations and ensuring both you and your manager are on the same page about what success looks like.
It's never too late to have this conversation; tie it to a natural segue like the start of a new quarter or project.
Ask questions to understand your manager's priorities and metrics, and propose solutions while removing cognitive load for them.

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Have you ever realized, partway through a project, that you and your boss aren’t on the same page? Maybe your definitions of success differed, or their expectations were unclear. Maybe you couldn’t get them to listen, or you couldn’t figure out why they insisted on doing things a certain way. Managing up means tackling these disconnects head-on—and doing it through honest, well-timed discussions.

Executive coach Melody Wilding joins Amy G to explain why alignment on goals and clarity around working styles are essential. They talk through how to start these conversations without awkwardness, what to say to make them productive, and how to adapt your approach without losing your authenticity. Plus, they answer listener questions and hear from Amy B about how she handles alignment with both her boss and her team.

**Guest expert: **

Melody Wilding is an executive coach, human behavior professor, and author of Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge).

Resources:

“The Essentials: Managing Up),” from Women at Work
“7 Questions to Decode Your Managers Priorities),” by Melody Wilding
“Before You Start Collaborating with Someone, Talk About Your Work Styles),” by Anke Thiele
“28 Questions to Ask Your Boss in Your One-on-Ones),” by Steven G. Rogelberg et al.
“Managing Up When Leadership Is Stuck in the Weeds),” Ian Gross and Samir Ranavat
“When Your Manager is Ineffective—and You Feel Stuck),” by Sarah Mann and Luis Velasquez

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Managing Up, One Conversation at a Time