your breakdown is your BREAKTHROUGH
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Hello and welcome to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things self-love, spirituality, and personal growth. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a three-time author, content creator, avid traveler, entrepreneur, and matcha enthusiast. You are at the right place if you're ready to rediscover the love within, align with your purpose, and unleash your highest potential. It's time to claim your power.

Hello, my friends, and welcome back to Claim Your Power podcast. If you're new here, my name is Kim and I am your host.

And guys, I have to preface this episode by saying that if there is one episode that I want you to listen to on the podcast, if you're binging the show, it is this one. Because this has to be, today's episode has to be one of the most important episodes that I will ever film up to date. The amount of value and wisdom that we're going to get into today, it is so important that no matter what phase in your life you are in right now, this episode is for you.

Today we are talking about why in life the breakdown is actually the breakthrough and it is not the end for you, it is actually the beginning. So I will start this episode by sharing a little bit about my life and my own experience and my own per se breakdown. So three years ago, I was battling an eating disorder. I was in and out of the ER every single day. I

I was battling the worst cystic acne of my life. I had ended a serious long-term relationship. I lost one of my best friends. I didn't get into my dream university. And by the way, all of these things were happening in a span of three months. It was like the universe came into my life and just dropped a huge bomb of self-awareness, a huge bomb of challenges and obstacles, and it was all coming at me at once. It was a very deep, dark night of my soul.

That breakdown, those things that I went through in that half year of my life, that was my biggest breakthrough of my life. It felt like the end at the time. It felt like I was losing everything, but I didn't even realize that I was being rebirthed. It was not the end. It was the beginning. And so I look back at that period of my life three years ago and I think to myself, I'm

Thank you universe for putting me through that. Thank you universe for all of those things that I went through because that breakdown was my breakthrough. And so whoever is listening right now,

Whatever it is that you are going through, I am here to tell you that this breakdown is going to be your greatest breakthrough and you don't even know it. Whether you just ended a long-term relationship, whether you're battling something with your health, whether you just lost your best friend, you didn't get the opportunity you wanted, you feel like everything is crumbling apart in front of you, I am here to remind you that this is not the end, baby. It is the beginning and you have no idea how

how many good things there are in store for you. You best know that when the universe starts to shake your life up, something good is about to come out of it. And I think what so many of us, when we go through certain hardships in our lives, heartbreaks, rejections, failures,

anything that feels like an actual breakdown in our lives, I want you to realize this one thing. And that is, this breakdown is going to make you so much stronger than you've ever been before. This breakdown is going to teach you so much about yourself that you didn't even know. And it's going to help you rise up above.

Sometimes we'd have to take one step back, two steps forward in life. When things start to get hard in your life, that is your biggest telltale sign that you are amidst a beautiful transformation.

I want you to think of yourself as a caterpillar right now. A caterpillar has to go through a period of metamorphosis before it can spread its wings and turn into a beautiful butterfly. That is who you are right now. You are the caterpillar. You are in your period of metamorphosis. And if you started seeing the breakdowns, wow, the second that I said this, it's 444 on my clock. That is insane, guys.

If you started seeing your breakdowns as your greatest breakthroughs, you will never be a victim of any circumstance that life throws at you. You will always come out of it a champion. And that is what I'm here to tell you right now. I am here to tell you that whatever it is that you are going through in your life right now, you are about to come out of it a newer, higher version of yourself and you don't even know it. And so I'm here to remind you

That whatever it is that you are going through right now is happening for your highest good. Let me say that again. Whatever it is that you are going through right now is happening for your highest good. Sometimes things in life have to fall apart in order to fall into place. Sometimes the pieces have to scrabble in order for us to put them back together in a better way. Sometimes we have to go through certain pain and hardships in order to awaken a strength within us.

Because you have to think about it this way. The human experience has duality. If we didn't experience pain and sorrow and loss, we wouldn't appreciate any happiness, joy, health, or abundance because we didn't have that duality. When we go through pain in our life, that is our biggest catalyst and our biggest motivator for change. And so I want you this year to welcome change and welcome the things that you are going through with open arms.

Because the more that you resist the changes happening in your life, the more you push yourself away and delay the good things that are meant to come into your life.

What if the thing that you are going through right now is preparing you for what you've asked for? What if everything that you are experiencing right now is actually setting the stage and paving the path to an amazing life for yourself that you don't even know? Sometimes life has amazing things in store for us that are so good that we don't even know how to ask for them. Like if I think back on a past version of myself and where I am now and all the amazing gifts and blessings that life has given me,

I think back to old Kim and I'm like, old Kim would never even have asked for those things because she didn't even know that she wanted those things.

So sometimes we have to go through certain experiences in life in order to realize what's actually meant for us, what we're actually worthy of, what's actually our highest path. Never, ever, ever be afraid to fall apart in life because when you fall apart, that is your biggest opportunity to rebuild yourself with stronger foundation and stronger roots.

Something that brings me so much peace is also remembering that in life, the universe will never ever ever send me a lesson that I can't handle. So anything that the universe throws my way, I know is coming my way for me to dive deeper into myself, for me to have an opportunity to get to know myself on a deeper level, to get to know my patterns, my triggers, and to integrate those lessons so that I can emerge as a higher me. Think back to the butterfly example.

The butterfly has to go through a period of darkness and just when it thinks that everything is dark all around it, it blooms into a beautiful butterfly. It spreads its wings. Darkness sometimes in life is a positive thing and I know that sounds so counterintuitive because through the dark though,

we realize our light. Sometimes we have to break in order for the light to get in. Sometimes we have to go through certain pain, rejections, failure, heartbreaks in our lives in order to realize something deeper within ourselves because the pain transforms us. Pain is something that is such a unique experience that if you can start actually embracing the pain that you've been through instead of resisting it and pushing it off, you will realize that the

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And that is that for every single challenge that you encounter in your life, it is also an opportunity for growth. And if you look at nature, look outside, look at nature and you look at the flowers, the flowers, even through the harshest of winters, they can bloom again. They can grow back again. And also it's completely normal to have periods in your life where you're hibernating, where you're learning, where you're feeling pain. That is part of life. Life is cyclical. We're

We are not meant to always be leveling up and growing and hustling. Sometimes part of life is also feeling and integrating and going through periods in our lives that are harder and more difficult so that through those periods, we can find our strength. Through those periods, we can realize our worth. Through those periods, we can

anchor ourselves back into ourselves, into our hearts, into our intuition more than we've ever done before. Caterpillar, when it's inside the cocoon, it doesn't just go to sleep and emerge as a beautiful butterfly. No, it literally has all this nasty goo that it has to dissolve. It's literally wrapped in a goo blanket. So if you are in that period in your life right now where you are wrapped in a goo blanket with all your shit, with all your triggers, with all your patterns, and you're realizing a lot about yourself,

Trust me that that is valid too because at some point you're just going to let all that goo go and you're going to rise up. You're going to spread your wings into a beautiful, beautiful butterfly and it's going to be the most amazing experience and you have to remember that, that your breakdown is your breakthrough.

And I also think it is so important for you to be able to look back at past versions of yourself, at past experiences that you went through. And in those moments, you thought you wouldn't survive it. You would never rise up. You will never heal. And look at you now. You have handled everything.

Every single thing that life has thrown your way up until today. Up until today, you have pushed through every single thing that you thought you couldn't handle and here you are today. And I think it is so important to always remind yourself that and be proud of yourself. Be proud of how strong you are. Be proud of how far you've come. Life is not a race. Life is not a competition. Life is a journey. We are all students.

in Earth School. We are all constantly learning our lessons. We are all constantly being tested. We are all constantly going up in higher levels in life. And that is beautiful and that is valid and we are not here to be perfect. We are here to use our breakdowns as opportunities to rise even higher than ever done before.

They did not leave your life. The universe moved them out of your life. You didn't get that opportunity not because you're not worthy, but because there's something even better waiting for you that you don't even know about. And so now I'm at a phase in my life where genuinely, maybe this is a little bit delulu, but if something doesn't work out with someone or I don't get an opportunity that I really wanted or I have a delay there or I have something just going on and it feels like the universe is just coming at me and throwing all these breakdowns my way,

I congratulate myself. Like if a guy, it doesn't work out with a guy, I'm like, Kim, congratulations. Congratulations, Kim, because it didn't work out because something even better is coming. If I didn't get a certain opportunity that I really wanted, I'm like, congratulations.

I'm like, congratulations, Kim, because something is waiting for you in store that you haven't even thought of. Maybe this is the Lulu, but I swear when you start congratulating yourself for your breakdowns, your breakthrough comes this much faster because instead of wallowing, instead of sitting and being a victim of your circumstance, you realize, okay, maybe there's an opportunity here. Maybe there is a lesson here. Maybe I can extract the lesson, integrate what I'm supposed to learn and move on.

on to a higher frequency, to a higher energy, to a new version of myself that I've never been before. So I want you to take a few deep breaths because it is going to be okay. It is going to be okay, my love. And I know right now it feels like the end of the world. I know right now it feels like everything is falling apart in front of your eyes. You're losing people. You're losing things that you thought were meant for you. But I promise you that the universe will

only remove certain people and only remove certain things and environments from your life because it is about to show you new things that you haven't experienced before. When one door closes, a new one opens. And in order for you to allow new energy, new people, new experiences into your life and to enter your life, you have to be able to shed old layers of yourself. The moments in your life when you break down, the moments in your life that you're ready to quit,

Those are usually the moments right before the miracle happens. And so instead of letting your experiences, the way other people treat you, their words, things that you've went through define who you are, define your power, define who you become. I want you to recognize those breakdowns in your life and I want you to tell yourself in those moments, oh baby,

Congratulations, because you're about to have a breakthrough and you don't even know it. I want you to imagine like there's a really, really nice angel on your right shoulder telling you, you got this baby, you got this. And even though it feels like you're about to break down and fall apart, it is because things are about to fall into place. And I don't care if this is the Lulu because the Lulu comes true Lulu. And any girl that is the Lulu is actually a girl that is living her most happy, fulfilled life because you are not constructed with

by other people's limiting beliefs and other people's fears. Keep your head up. Keep your head up, my love, because sometimes life gives the hardest battles to the strongest people. Sometimes life will send you the hardest obstacles because you're meant to overcome them. You have enough power and courage inside of you, power and courage that maybe you didn't even know you had, and you're meant to overcome them. And I know for a fact...

that whatever it is that you are going through in your life right now, after listening to this episode, you're going to have time to integrate. You're going to have time to really feel it all out. And in a week, in a month, even in a year, and however time you need, you're going to send me that DM on Instagram. You're going to tell me, Kim, you're right. It was my breakthrough. How did you know? And you're going to tell me, and you know what I'm going to tell you? I'm going to tell you congratulations. So I invite you, whatever it is you're going through in your life right now, don't resist it. Embrace it.

Because when you embrace it, you stop blocking yourself from gifts, from blessings, and from miracles to enter your life. I want you to keep reminding yourself that you are strong, that you are powerful, that you have so much courage and power within you, and you can always tap into that. Something that I always do that's really helpful to me is when I'm going through hard phases in my life, I channel my inner warrior.

I truly believe that we have so many different personality traits and I think that's also how our body is built. Think about the fight or flight system in our body. It's a natural rhythm in our body that's meant to protect us and help us survive. And so I have my own fight or flight system, except it's not a fight or flight system. It's Kimmy the warrior. And so I invite you to have your own warrior inside of you. And when you are struggling, when you are going through it, when you are breaking down,

Let that warrior persona enter your head, enter your space and remind you, I am powerful.

I am powerful and I can overcome anything because every single breakdown that life sends my way is going to end up being my breakthrough. And you best know that I'm going to go through the lessons. I'm going to reap my rewards and I'm going to level up. And I invite you to be that type of person too. I invite you to not let other people define who you are. I invite you to not let your obstacles or your pain define who you become because the past is the past and the present and the present, but you still have power to influence your future.

The future is unwritten. Nobody can write your future except you. You are the co-creator of your reality. And the second that you remember that is the second you take your power back from all people, all things, and all experiences that hold you back. A relationship ended. Your life didn't end. You didn't get an opportunity. Your life didn't end. A friendship ended. Your life didn't end. Something didn't work out that you really thought was meant to work out for you. Your life didn't end.

When you realize that when things don't work out for you, it is not the ending. It is the beginning of something that maybe you haven't expected. Maybe you haven't thought of. When you realize this, nothing and when I say nothing can hold you back in life. And so I want to end this episode by reminding you that there is such a thing as growing pains and growing pains are part of life.

And sometimes the growing pains is what we need to go through in order to grow, to prosper, to elevate. And so instead of resisting the growing pains, I want you to start embracing them and realizing that there is something so amazing on the other side for you. And I want you to claim this energy for yourself. Claim it, baby. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. As always, I will talk to you next week. Bye.