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45% Of Young Men Have Never Asked Someone Out - Why?

2025/2/27
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我最近看到Alexander（@DatePsych）的一项研究，发现45%的18-25岁男性从未主动约过女性，这让我很震惊。我认为这背后有几个原因，首先，我认为年轻男性的风险承受能力大大降低了。疫情和过度依赖数字空间导致他们更少地与人面对面互动，从而降低了他们的风险承受能力。这不仅对他们的恋爱关系，也对他们的事业和自信心都造成了负面影响。男性需要经历挑战和风险才能建立自信和能力，而主动接近女性并面对可能的拒绝正是这个过程的一部分。许多年轻男性因为害怕被拒绝、被嘲笑或被贴上负面标签而回避这种风险。但我的经验是，大多数女性不会恶意拒绝，关键在于男性如何看待和处理这种拒绝。在线约会降低了风险，而面对面的互动则更直接、更难以回避。因此，我们需要鼓励年轻男性承担更多风险，让他们明白失败和拒绝是成长过程中不可避免的一部分，而勇于承担风险的男性更具吸引力。其次，我认为社会上关于两性关系的叙事也起了作用。政治观点的分歧导致男性和女性的意识形态出现分歧，一些叙事让男性认为女性不希望被主动接近，甚至会将这种行为视为威胁或冒犯。但实际上，大多数女性都欣赏真诚和尊重，只要方式得当，主动接近女性并不会被视为冒犯。最后，我认为缺乏社交技能和日益增长的社会焦虑也对年轻男性造成了影响。疫情和科技的兴起导致许多年轻男性更加孤立和孤独，他们缺乏与他人互动的机会，这进一步加剧了他们的社交焦虑。因此，我建议年轻男性积极参与社交活动，尝试与女性进行面对面的交流，即使一开始会感到尴尬。他们应该展现自己的个性，真诚坦率地表达自己，并从每一次互动中学习和成长。

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A recent study reveals that 45% of young men aged 18-25 have never asked a woman out, while 75% of women in the same age group desire to be approached. This podcast explores potential reasons behind this discrepancy, focusing on risk tolerance and social narratives.
  • 45% of men aged 18-25 have never asked a woman out.
  • 75% of women in the same age range want to be approached by men.
  • The podcast explores the reasons behind this gap.

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Talking point: dating, relationships, risk

I recently came across some work by Alexander (aka @DatePsych), where he put together some fascinating data. Turns out 45% of men between 18-25 haven't asked a woman out. Ever. What's the deal? Well, here are two of my theories, and I'd love to hear yours.

Link to the study: https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/)

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