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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You

2023/1/5
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目讨论了如何正确设定目标,并提供了相应的工具和方法。首先,她指出设定目标看似简单,但大多数人没有正确设定目标,导致在开始前就失败了。她认为设定目标能让人更快乐、抑制负面情绪、带来目标感和意义感,并让生活感觉更容易。 她介绍了俄勒冈大学的研究,指出目标设定可以简化为两个主要组成部分:“意志”(Why)和“方法”(How)。“意志”指的是行为改变的动机和情感方面,“方法”指的是行为改变的认知和信息方面。两者都需要才能成功改变行为。 她还列举了人们在设定和实现目标时常犯的五个错误:只关注方法而忽略意志;设定过多目标;目标难度不合适;目标过于笼统;没有设定高低范围目标。针对这些错误,她提供了相应的建议和方法,例如使用第三人称视角来谈论自己,以更好地识别目标;使用“高低范围目标”法,更容易实现目标;设定一个容易实现的里程碑,以建立动力;将自己的目标告诉自己钦佩的人,以增强目标承诺和绩效;立即采取行动,即使是很小的步骤。 最后,她强调了设定目标的主要原因是它能给生活带来意义和目标感,而实现目标本身并不一定带来持久的快乐。她鼓励听众设定目标,并坚持不懈地努力,最终改变自己的生活。

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This episode will help you set the right goals for you.

 

Goals matter. They make your life easier and they create a sense of purpose and meaning.

 

But most people don’t set goals the right way, which is why they fail before they even start.

 

That’s not going to be you.

 

This episode is a comprehensive toolkit that will help you set the goals that inspire you and make you feel excited about the year ahead. 

 

And, it’s part of our month-long series covering the foundational research and topics related to creating a better life.

 

Today, you’re not only going to learn the correct way to set goals according to research, you’re also going to identify 1-3 goals for yourself, and I’ll be doing the same thing right along with you. 

 

Have no idea what your goals are or where to even start?

 

Don’t worry; you will by the end of the episode.

 

You’ll apply the latest research every single step of the way. 

 

And that’s not all. 

 

You can access a free companion workbook at melrobbins.com/goals) that will walk you through everything we’re talking about so you can go even deeper into this conversation.

 

Expect your goals to change as you listen to this episode, so don’t worry about doing any of this “right.” 

 

By the end of this episode you will have even taken the first steps toward your goal. 

 

How cool is that? I can’t wait. Let’s get started.

 

Xo Mel

 

For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast).

 

For a free worksheet that dives deeper into the episode and helps you apply what you learn, click here).

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 1:15: How do I set goals the right way?
  • 2:56: Why setting goals is so important: the truth from research
  • 8:24: The exciting new research about goals from Dr. Birkman that you need to know
  • 10:56: My three goals for 2023
  • 13:05: I’m answering your top question about goals
  • 13:27: Four science-backed hacks to use when you’re not sure what your goals are
  • 16:20: Three qualities of the best goals
  • 21:48: Two components of a goal that you’ve got to have in order to achieve it
  • 27:07: What neuroscience says about why your brain needs these two components
  • 31:25: The five mistakes we all make when we set and try to achieve goals
  • 42:41: A powerful question about goals from Columbia University researchers that you should ask yourself
  • 44:57: Why setting a “high-low range goal” will make you more successful
  • 50:33: The most important thing you should do once you set a goal
  • 53:06: Here’s the crazy irony about achieving your goals

 

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