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How To Handle Difficult People & Take Back Your Peace and Power

2025/2/27
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 我经常在与人交谈后感到自信受损,这可能是因为被打断、纠正或被忽视。一些道歉实际上是轻视,而非真正的道歉。今天,我们将学习如何应对不尊重、煤气灯操控和虚假道歉,学习如何找回自信和掌控感。 Jefferson Fisher: 通过掌握语言,可以获得掌控感,应对困难的人和情况,并掌控自己的人生方向。困难的人之所以困难,是因为他们有恐惧、不安全感和需求,所以与其视为冲突,不如视为寻求联系。在与人交流时,可以选择不回应对方的攻击性言论,从而掌控谈话。说话越少,听起来越有力量,表达越自信。将目标设定为理解对方,而非改变对方,可以降低互动强度。当对方说“没人听我说话”时,其实是想被倾听和理解。应对对方激烈的情绪表达,要反其道而行之,提出问题,引导对方深入表达。当对方情绪激动时,放慢语速,降低音量,可以使自己保持冷静,并引导对方情绪平复。在与人交流时,要看到对方背后的真实情感,而非表面表现。问一句“这件事我们必须达成一致吗?”可以有效阻止争论。可以巧妙地转移或推迟谈话时间,来保护自己的时间。一些短语可以帮助降低对方的戒备心,例如“我明白了”、“这很有帮助”、“我同意”。不要把别人的话放在心上,要学会放下。应对轻视,可以要求对方重复其言论,从而削弱其攻击性。应对不尊重,可以使用沉默和一句“这低于我的回应标准”。当他人对他人不尊重时,要保持礼貌,并明确表示自己不会那样做。控制情绪的方法是控制呼吸和放松肩膀。应对煤气灯操控,可以使用一句“我记得不一样”。应对挑衅,可以保持沉默或表示自己没有意见。应对自恋型人格,要保持距离,避免卷入他们的游戏。与自恋型人格交流,要控制回复速度,保持中立,避免情绪化回应。与情绪化的人交流,要创造安全空间,让他们表达真实感受。应对粗鲁的言行,可以询问对方是否故意如此。要相信大多数人本性善良,并尝试理解对方背后的原因。与人交流时,要控制自己的言行,自信地表达,并尝试与对方建立联系。

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Today, you are getting research-backed strategies for handling difficult people. 

In this episode, you will dive deep into how to respond to disrespect, gaslighting, and exactly what to say when someone tries to brush off their behavior with, “I was just joking.” 

You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better. 

Jefferson is here to teach you exactly what to say (and what not to say) when you're dealing with a difficult person: 

If you’re tired of being talked over, dismissed, or made to feel less than, it’s time to learn the techniques that will help you walk into any conversation with confidence—and walk away with your power intact. 

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stand up for yourself without being unlikable.
  • Handle disrespect without losing your cool.
  • Stop arguments before they start.
  • Set boundaries without feeling guilty
  • Reclaim your confidence in seconds
  • Handle fake apologies and toxic conversations like a pro

After today, you’ll have the exact tools to protect your peace, reclaim your confidence, and navigate any difficult conversation with ease. 

For more resources, click here) for the podcast episode page. 

If you enjoyed this episode, and want to know more about how to protect your energy and happiness, listen to this one next: The 7-Day Reset for More Time, Energy & Happiness (Backed by Science))

Listen to Jefferson’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast here: Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation)

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