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Esther Calling - First He Loved Bombed Me And Then It Was Over

2025/6/9
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Caller: 我在过去几年经历了一段情感过山车式的关系，起初感觉非常好，但后来变得非常糟糕。现在，在与这个人完全断绝联系六到八个月后，我感到非常痛苦，觉得自己毫无价值，很容易被取代。我知道其他女性也有过类似的经历，但一开始我真的觉得这段关系充满希望，我以为自己很特别。他让我觉得自己很特别，而我并不是那种轻易进入一段关系的人。现在我44岁，42岁时开始这段关系，他比我小10岁。当时我很自信和快乐，但我也曾放弃寻找爱情。他提供了很多，一开始感觉很好，充满希望，但后来关系开始瓦解，同时我的父亲也去世了。我意识到这个人不适合我，但他订婚很快，我不知道如何恢复，也不知道是否还能信任别人。我结束这段关系的主要原因是知道和他不会有长久的爱，但我仍然渴望，只是不知道是否还能信任。我在这段关系中迷失了自我，自己的兴趣和快乐都被放在了最不重要的位置。现在我很难信任自己、他人和爱情，也难以接受自己仍然沉溺于这段关系中。

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The caller describes her relationship with a narcissistic partner who initially love-bombed her before turning manipulative and aggressive. She feels destroyed, worthless, and replaceable after the relationship ended, and she is struggling to trust again.
  • Emotional roller coaster relationship
  • Love bombing at the beginning
  • Manipulative and aggressive behavior later
  • Feeling worthless and replaceable
  • Struggling to trust again

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She's grappling with the aftermath of a tumultuous relationship with a narcissistic partner. First, he love bombed her and made her feel special only to turn manipulative and aggressive in a time of need following her father's death. She doesn't know how to bounce back or how she will learn to trust again.

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